shadowplay Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Just spoke with my ex and it left me feeling depressed. I was just thinking him...and the guy before him....and it occurred to me that people lie in relationships all the time. I've been guilty of it as well. It doesn't matter how much someone tells you they love you or need you or whatever. All that means nothing and can easily be discarded with a passing mood. If they really meant those things their actions would match up. They wouldn't so easily throw everything away. People often treat their SOs worse than they treat their friends because gfs/bfs are easily replaceable. I am shocked by the way people will oscillate. If I sound bitter it's because I am. I don't believe love is abundant anymore. It's very rare. I think a lot of people confuse momentary lust with love.
pandagirl Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Just spoke with my ex and it left me feeling depressed. I was just thinking him...and the guy before him....and it occurred to me that people lie in relationships all the time. I've been guilty of it as well. It doesn't matter how much someone tells you they love you or need you or whatever. All that means nothing and can easily be discarded with a passing mood. If they really meant those things their actions would match up. They wouldn't so easily throw everything away. People often treat their SOs worse than they treat their friends because gfs/bfs are easily replaceable. I am shocked by the way people will oscillate. If I sound bitter it's because I am. I don't believe love is abundant anymore. It's very rare. I think a lot of people confuse momentary lust with love. You know, I've been feeling the same way. I've just, in general, been disappointed with people. I am lucky that my close circle of friends are wonderful, truly good people, but these people are few and far between. Most people are selfish and only cater to their own needs. People lie, because it's too difficult to tell the truth. I wish I could just give up hope and become a misanthrope, but I have a resilient faith in people. It never really crosses my mind that a person would want/have to lie to me, or have ill intentions, or be disingenuous. But, time and time again, I am disappointed with people and how they act. No one says what they mean anymore. Love exists, but no one really understands what it is anymore.
LoveLace Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Plus, people will tell little white lies that are so little they are easily overlooked. I think love exists (ugh, I guess!); it's the "trust" part of things that I find myself questioning more than love itself. I could love soo many people, but how many can be trusted?
Peter_pan Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 interesting. what is love then? i want to know if i actually did love this girl or just thought i did
xpaperxcutx Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Love is just another word in the English dictionary. Some people just move on faster than others. They have the mentality to do so.
Tony T Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 It's very tragic but most people cannot be trusted anymore. But I think it's more a matter of survival than a total desire to deceive. People lie and act dishonestly because they feel they have to in order to preserve the status quo or to get where they need to be. Where relationships are concerned...it's just like jobs or anything else...if something else better comes along, oh well. It's the way people are programmed these days. There's simply not a lot of honesty, integrity and loyalty being taught nowadays. There are exceptions and so many pass on them, the truly worthy ones, because they aren't a challenge...they're simply too nice....hahahaha!!!
IrishCarBomb Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Mother Teresa said this: "People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives; do good anyway. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies; succeed anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow; do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable; be frank and honest anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight; build anyway. People really need help but attack you if you help them; help them anyway. Give the world the best you've got and you'll get kicked in the teeth; give the world the best you've got anyway."
pandagirl Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Plus, people will tell little white lies that are so little they are easily overlooked. I think love exists (ugh, I guess!); it's the "trust" part of things that I find myself questioning more than love itself. I could love soo many people, but how many can be trusted? Sigh. ME TOO. I feel like I always end up finding SOMETHING to love about everyone I date. interesting. what is love then? i want to know if i actually did love this girl or just thought i did This is just semantics. If you believe you loved someone, then you probably did. Where relationships are concerned...it's just like jobs or anything else...if something else better comes along, oh well. It's the way people are programmed these days. There's simply not a lot of honesty, integrity and loyalty being taught nowadays. There are exceptions and so many pass on them, the truly worthy ones, because they aren't a challenge...they're simply too nice....hahahaha!!! Ah! The job analogy is so true. People always think they can do better. Everyone is looking for perfection, instead of appreciate what they have. It's sad.
daphne Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 There's simply not a lot of honesty, integrity and loyalty being taught nowadays. There are exceptions and so many pass on them, the truly worthy ones, because they aren't a challenge...they're simply too nice....hahahaha!!! Where can I sign up for this? Challenges are waaaaayyyy overrated. Integrity is an old fashioned notion these days.
Suiyobi Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 If I sound bitter it's because I am. I don't believe love is abundant anymore. It's very rare. I think a lot of people confuse momentary lust with love. Yeah... couldn't have said this better myself.
Ariadne Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Mother Teresa said this: "People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives; do good anyway. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies; succeed anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow; do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable; be frank and honest anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight; build anyway. People really need help but attack you if you help them; help them anyway. Give the world the best you've got and you'll get kicked in the teeth; give the world the best you've got anyway." Awwwww............... :love: I absolutely love that!!! Thanks for posting it.
Tony T Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Mother Teresa said this: "People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; love them anyway. " I don't think Mother Teresa ever did a lot of dating.
Leoni Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I don't think Mother Teresa ever did a lot of dating. There are no safe harbours in any relationship. If you treat your partner with love, trust and respect, hopefully they'll return it. If you treat your partner like crap, consistently displaying bad behaviours, you can be guaranteed that they'll walk..nay..run....
loveinlife Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Just spoke with my ex and it left me feeling depressed. I was just thinking him...and the guy before him....and it occurred to me that people lie in relationships all the time. I've been guilty of it as well. It doesn't matter how much someone tells you they love you or need you or whatever. All that means nothing and can easily be discarded with a passing mood. If they really meant those things their actions would match up. They wouldn't so easily throw everything away. People often treat their SOs worse than they treat their friends because gfs/bfs are easily replaceable. I am shocked by the way people will oscillate. If I sound bitter it's because I am. I don't believe love is abundant anymore. It's very rare. I think a lot of people confuse momentary lust with love. I shadow, I agree with you. Lots of my exes lied before. Its hard for me to trust anyone, even including the girl im dating. I think she is out interested in another guy at denver right now... im in cali... its so hard to trust anyone these days. I see a lot of fallacies from my friends too.. ones who are stingy and selfish, i don't like that crap.. Before i wasn't like this either, but so many bad experiences? i want to make new friends and find out about whats more out there than what i currently have... ppl who i can trust.
loveinlife Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Mother Teresa said this: "People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives; do good anyway. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies; succeed anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow; do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable; be frank and honest anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight; build anyway. People really need help but attack you if you help them; help them anyway. Give the world the best you've got and you'll get kicked in the teeth; give the world the best you've got anyway." Hi Irish, I like the qoute. thanks for posting it. =)
Lovely Disaster Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I think for the most part, people can be trusted. But relationships and people's feelings can't be guaranteed to last. People get in relationships, then somewhere down the road, one of them realizes this person wasn't the one for them. It hurts the other person but it is best to take that pain rather than to live the lie of a person pretending to love you.
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