This One Is For The Guys...Well Women Can Answer Too.

[Dark-N-Romantic]

As many of you know I am single and unemployed. And while I know there are all types of women out there who are take in all types of guys and I know in that financial status is not always the important factor in a relationship, but to me I don't feel ready to date a woman without having a job. Granted I know it should not stop me from looking, especially if I am not a slouch just sitting on his mom's couch, but I still just feel off about not having the finances there to take care of myself.

 

Are there any guys who are in a relationship or have been in a relationship with a woman who dated/is dating/or has married you despite you having a job or a financial means of independence?

 

Are there any women who are in such or have been in such a relationship?

 

I mean to I know money isn't everything, but it still bothers me knowing it is still everything in this world.

 

 

DNR

[beautifullove]

I never thought I'd see the day that I'd say I won't date a guy that is uneducated, and has no money or a low-paying job that can only get him through the month. My dad always taught me to be humble, and generally I try not to judge people. I now expect a man to offer me the same as what I can offer him - no less, but it can be more. lol. My experiences have opened my eyes in more ways than one.

[beautifullove]

Of course there are other qualities I look for, but for the sake of your post, I talk only about education and money, because the two generally come hand-in-hand.

[Krytie TV]

I talk only about education and money, because the two generally come hand-in-hand.

 

Usually yes. Unfortunately, yet another way in which I am an outlier.

 

To the OP. I am the same as you. At any point that I was unemployed and single, I refused to put mself out for a reltaionship. I don't feel that it is a good time to try to attract people. From a romantic point of view, yes, it shouldn't matter. But at my age I know that you lose out on many potentially wonderful mates by trying to engage them at that point in your life. It is absolutely realistic (and in my mind necessary) for a woman to require a man at least be gainfully employed. Income requirements, however, can be a little dicier.

[Dark-N-Romantic]

Of course there are other qualities I look for, but for the sake of your post, I talk only about education and money, because the two generally come hand-in-hand.

 

I've got the education part down... I am a 9 year Marine, made it to sergeant, so I have good leadership skills and clerical skills. I ran my own IT department and managed a barracks full of Marines, and supervised a communications platoon practically all at the same time. I am an accomplished poet and photographer (as a matter of fact, I have a call for work on Wednesday for a event). In December I graduated with an assoc. in computer network operations. So, I have a lot of great qualifying skills, just that the job market is for crap right now. Hell, I can't even get a messenger job until September when all the kids go back to school. The same is with fast food joints.

 

And I agree, the same thing income the woman expects me to have, I expect her to have the same thing. If that what she tells me she is about. I believe everyone should pull their fair share in a relationship. Besides, she would have to, because unless we are married, ain't no shacking up for me.

 

 

DNR

[johan]

You don't need a job if you have a direction. Everyone is unemployed at some point. A woman is going to think twice about you if you're not working or financially secure. But if you have confidence in yourself and where you're going, so will she.

[Jake Barnes]

Well if youre totally unemployed then I dont se what you can even do or where you can even go

 

I have a college degree and am waiting tables at an IHOP and earlier this year I was delivering pizza

 

You shouldnt be too proud to at least meet your basic obligations

[Touche]

Well if youre totally unemployed then I dont se what you can even do or where you can even go

 

I have a college degree and am waiting tables at an IHOP and earlier this year I was delivering pizza

 

You shouldnt be too proud to at least meet your basic obligations

 

Yeah, I mean you shouldn't expect your parents to pay for your beer and cigarillos.

 

In all seriousness, I don't see why it would stop a woman from dating you as long as you have some goals and direction like Johan said.

 

I mean my H had a job when we met but he was in debt up to the wazoo from his divorce. It didn't matter to me.

[Jake Barnes]

or your health insurance, car insurance, car repairs, college loans, doctors bills and groceries

 

you know the kinds of things one has to pay for when theyre not married to a lawyer

[Touche]

or your health insurance, car insurance, car repairs, college loans, doctors bills and groceries

 

you know the kinds of things one has to pay for when theyre not married to a lawyer

 

That's really low. I've always supported myself and now I work for his practice.

 

I've worked during most of our marriage.

[Arise_Serpentor]

That's really low. I've always supported myself and now I work for his practice.

 

I've worked during most of our marriage.

 

What? I don't get it? Why is that low? Who mentioned lawyers? A job is a job in my book!!!

[LoveLace]

I once dated a guy that was a job-hopper, with some periods of unemployment. When he had money he treated me well with it. But it was a turn-off that he didn't really have a career path of any sort.

 

It's understandable if you want the ability to take a woman out...it takes money to date, plain and simple..for women and men.

[Touche]

What? I don't get it? Why is that low? Who mentioned lawyers? A job is a job in my book!!!

 

Jake did. Can you not read?

[Arise_Serpentor]

Jake did. Can you not read?

Yeah, but WHY did he bring it up?!?!

"Can you not read?" Why would you say that?

You don't have to be rude!