Should I have sex with him tonite...

[Lizzie60]

or should I make him wait longer..

 

I've been dating him for a few weeks now.. no sex.. he said he would 'wait' for me.. (whenever I'm ready)... I made him wait, on purpose.. (another of my little experiments)..

 

We talk every day, lately I've been very busy so we didn't get to see each other very often..

 

He had a very sulty, mellow voice a while ago.. he's coming right now, we're going to the movies.. (Dark Knight)...

 

hum.. methink I might be too tired after the movies.. I'm working tomorrow.. .. he might have to wait longer..

 

Has anyone else been 'dumped' because they didn't have sex soon enough? I'm curious..

[tm83]

well if he really is serious about you he will more than likely wait till you are ready, but if you think it might be a worry of his, let him know that you are definately a sexual person but you just want to make sure its the right time. Or maybe let things go almost but not all the way just to let him know that his waiting isnt for nothing. But dont do anything you dont want to just out of fear of losing him.

[sid3]

Tell him since it'll be your first time, you want to make sure everything is just right:lmao:

[Lizzie60]

Tell him since it'll be your first time, you want to make sure everything is just right:lmao:

 

 

OMG... ...... yeah right.. we had sex before (when we dated previously.. that's why I told him he only wanted to get back in my pants, he swore he wasn't)

[sid3]

HUH, a guy only wanting to get into the pants, who'd ever thought that may happen..........make him wait, the sex will be better for both of you:rolleyes:

[eric82]

OMG... ...... yeah right.. we had sex before (when we dated previously.. that's why I told him he only wanted to get back in my pants, he swore he wasn't)

 

if you had sex before and he's waiting now, i think that means he really likes who you are and not just what you can do with him. what's making you question his intentions? it sounds to me like you are just not that into him at this point and thus you are using this test of withholding sex to try to find a reason to feel more into him

[Enema]

I think you should do it.

 

He wants it, you want it... games are for kids. Bounce away Lizzie!

[tm83]

since you already had a sexual relationship in the past and he has waited so far, then I would say go ahead if you want it. if he was just after a hook up then he wouldnt have waited this long. go for it if you want it:bunny:

[johan]

It seems like you never have feelings. You don't care what the guy feels. You don't care what his wife/girlfriend feels. You just do all this for yourself.

 

And from that perspective, it seems like you should just do whatever amuses you until you get tired of it. It's not as if there is some magic advice that would make you do something different.

[Jake Barnes]

It seems like you never have feelings. You don't care what the guy feels. You don't care what his wife/girlfriend feels. You just do all this for yourself.

 

And from that perspective, it seems like you should just do whatever amuses you until you get tired of it. It's not as if there is some magic advice that would make you do something different.

She has feelings alright....she looks at the dark sepulchre of death looming not too far in the distance and it fills her with dread...

[OpenBook]

She has feelings alright....she looks at the dark sepulchre of death looming not too far in the distance and it fills her with dread...

 

I highly doubt it. She seems to be having the time of her life!! When we get old, we regret not what we DID do but what we DIDN'T. Lizzie has lived (and is still living) a full life. She should have no regrets.

[Jake Barnes]

I highly doubt it. She seems to be having the time of her life!! When we get old, we regret not what we DID do but what we DIDN'T. Lizzie has lived (and is still living) a full life. She should have no regrets.

I would agree with you if your definition of a full life is to be literally filled up all the time

[Citizen Erased]

She has feelings alright....she looks at the dark sepulchre of death looming not too far in the distance and it fills her with dread...

 

:lmao:

 

Just do it. You have only a few years left before men will stop seeing you as the older lady they want to sleep with so get this guy out of the way so you can fit a couple more in.

[johan]

I highly doubt it. She seems to be having the time of her life!! When we get old, we regret not what we DID do but what we DIDN'T. Lizzie has lived (and is still living) a full life. She should have no regrets.

 

You're right. It's just the betrayed and used people she leaves in her wake who will have regrets. The broken trusts she was part of breaking. That probably sounds like a great time to you. To me it sounds like selling a bit too much of your soul for the pride of doing shallow, sneaky things no one really wants to hear about.

[Lizzie60]

I was a good girl.. no sex.. it was my dodo time so he had to leave right after the movie... he said he wants to see me again this week...

 

He held my hand all through the movie..he was very lovey-touchey (in public) which is quite unusual, he used to be quite 'reserved'..

 

He grabbed my chin a few times during the movie and kiss me.. he's sweet...

 

Anyway.. the movie was good, The Dark Knight.. but I think HL was overrated..he's good but I can think of many actors that would have done just as good .. not an Oscar's performance.. but of course, they will probably give it to him.. since he's dead now..

 

The special effects were quite spectacular.. other than that, the 'acting' was good nothing out of the ordinary... IMO.

[Lovely Disaster]

Thanks for the Dark Man review.

I'm sorry, is "dodo" time your monthly friend?

 

I do think that building up anticipation can be an advantage.

[Lizzie60]

Thanks for the Dark Man review.

I'm sorry, is "dodo" time your monthly friend?

 

I do think that building up anticipation can be an advantage.

 

 

hahaha.. no 'monthly friend' for me anymore..

 

no.. my dodo time means 'sleep'... I get up early in the morning..

 

touroulou..

[OpenBook]

You're right. It's just the betrayed and used people she leaves in her wake who will have regrets. The broken trusts she was part of breaking. That probably sounds like a great time to you. To me it sounds like selling a bit too much of your soul for the pride of doing shallow, sneaky things no one really wants to hear about.

 

Well, johan, if you don't want to hear about it, then why are you here reading and reacting to this thread? And maybe your "broken trust" speech might be better directed at the CH's who are pursuing Lizzie. They're the ones breaking the trust. Lizzie isn't married to anyone. She's Sworn To Fun, Loyal To None, and she makes no bones about communicating that to everyone. There is no "trust" for her to break. The way I see it, she's way more honest in the way she lives her life than most others I've seen on here and IRL.

[Lizzie60]

Well, johan, if you don't want to hear about it, then why are you here reading and reacting to this thread? And maybe your "broken trust" speech might be better directed at the CH's who are pursuing Lizzie. They're the ones breaking the trust. Lizzie isn't married to anyone. She's Sworn To Fun, Loyal To None, and she makes no bones about communicating that to everyone. There is no "trust" for her to break. The way I see it, she's way more honest in the way she lives her life than most others I've seen on here and IRL.

 

Thanks OB.. I just read his last post.. and you're right.. if he doesn't like it.. too bad.. he just doens't need to read..

 

I will certainly not apologize for having a bf now.. am I? Could be the road to 'rehab'...

 

No seriously... he is very sweet.. just called now.. he's coming over tonite.. so I think he is kind of 'persistent'.. I think he do wants some 'candy'... but I might have a serious talk with him...

 

He knows I'm not THAT into him anymore... I'm not THAT excited about him anymore.. I used to but that changed...

 

I am very honest about it.. but he still wants to give it a shot..

 

or maybe if I have sex with him tonite he will leave me alone..

[johan]

Well, johan, if you don't want to hear about it, then why are you here reading and reacting to this thread? And maybe your "broken trust" speech might be better directed at the CH's who are pursuing Lizzie. They're the ones breaking the trust. Lizzie isn't married to anyone. She's Sworn To Fun, Loyal To None, and she makes no bones about communicating that to everyone. There is no "trust" for her to break. The way I see it, she's way more honest in the way she lives her life than most others I've seen on here and IRL.

 

Why don't you let your hero Lizzie speak for herself, and save your t-shirt slogans for your friends? You don't have to post here in response to me if you don't like what I'm saying. By continuing, you will only be sacrificing whatever respect I might have had for you.

 

I think Lizzie is a braggart, and I've seen enough insensitive threads watching her mock the others in this community who are dealing with the pain of just the kind of betrayal you think she is innocent of.

 

You say she's honest, but all she really is is open on an anonymous internet forum. There's no honesty. In real life, she's slinking and hiding in the shadows. And even here, she deliberately avoids justifying her behavior (as opposed to rationalizing it), because it can't be justified. Certainly not by blaming the men. She's a knowing participant. She knows the situation before she even gets involved. And that makes her equally responsible for what happens and all the implications.

[OpenBook]

Why don't you let your hero Lizzie speak for herself, and save your t-shirt slogans for your friends?

 

:D Lizzie isn't my hero. I just think she gets unfairly picked on sometimes. And some posters can't stand it when their insults roll right off her back. I find that fascinating. Some aspect of human nature I'm not quite familiar with yet... why does her Teflon attitude annoy them so darn much?

 

You don't have to post here in response to me if you don't like what I'm saying.

 

Very true. But I'm not contradicting myself by responding. You are.

 

By continuing, you will only be sacrificing whatever respect I might have had for you.

 

Well, johan, I guess I'll just have to endure another sleepless night over that one.

 

I think Lizzie is a braggart, and I've seen enough insensitive threads watching her mock the others in this community who are dealing with the pain of just the kind of betrayal you think she is innocent of.

 

Well then, maybe they should be directing themselves at the REAL cause of the pain - their CS's!! Lizzie is NOT the source of their pain - why are they trying to make her the scapegoat for all of it? Another fascinating aspect of human nature I'm struggling to understand. If someone betrayed me, the LAST place I'd want to be is somewhere that reminds me of it over and over again!!!

 

You say she's honest, but all she really is is open on an anonymous internet forum. There's no honesty. In real life, she's slinking and hiding in the shadows.

 

Wow, this is assuming an awful lot about her. Do you know her personally?

 

And even here, she deliberately avoids justifying her behavior (as opposed to rationalizing it), because it can't be justified. Certainly not by blaming the men.

 

And why do you feel she has to justify her behavior to you or anyone else?? Fascinating...

 

She's a knowing participant. She knows the situation before she even gets involved. And that makes her equally responsible for what happens and all the implications.

 

No it doesn't - not by a long shot. But I know I will never see eye-to-eye with you (and many others) on that.

[Lizzie60]

Well, johan, I guess I'll just have to endure another sleepless night over that one.

 

... I won't lose sleep over this either...

 

and you're right... I don't feel I have to justify my behaviour.. or apologize... nor does anyone else on this forum..as far as I'm concerned..

 

Oh well.. OB... don't lose sleep over this.. thanks for the support..

[johan]

I didn't post hoping to give you insomnia. I posted to remind you of what you already know is true. If you want to pass it off as no big deal, that's fine with me. You probably laugh the same way at your own conscience. That's your burden to bear.

 

But you aren't free of responsibility. You can't simply blame the men, because you know you make a deal with them to be complicit in the deception. And whether you want to admit it or not, you know it's true. You're on the team.

 

It's not right for people to take shots at your age. But I will say one thing about it: it's good that the end of your run is coming soon, and you'll have to find some other way to amuse yourself.

[Enema]

Are you angry at Lizzie because you don't agree with her dating married men, or is it something else?

[Nevermind]

He is one of your experiments, you don't feel THAT much for him anymore. You're not eager to have sex.

 

Why are you going out with him again?