e11631975 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I broke off a two year relationship as I felt she was not right for me. I soon learned that I made a huge mistake as my feelings were very deep for her. After the break-up she immediately went on a popular dating site and soon found someone. She began calling me to tell me she wanted to be friends. I told her I could never be just friends with her. This went on for weeks when I told her to please stop calling me. Two months went by when she called again and told me she missed having sex with me, wanted to have sex with me, the man she is with is driving her nuts because of his religious views, and she wanted me to convince her to come back to me. I explained to her that I will not be a part of cheating on her current relationship, I still do love her and would take her back if she were free, and threw it back in her face by asking how she would feel if the man she was with had a conversation like this one with another woman (probably a big mistake on my part!). She chose to stay with the other man. Six more months have gone by for a total of about a year and four months. She is still with this other man and still keeps calling me every month or so to see if we can be just friends...my answer is still the same. I just wish she would stay out of my life so I can move on. I have moved on but when she calls she brings back the pain of a lost love. Why won't she leave me alone?
northstar1 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I broke off a two year relationship as I felt she was not right for me. I soon learned that I made a huge mistake as my feelings were very deep for her. After the break-up she immediately went on a popular dating site and soon found someone. She began calling me to tell me she wanted to be friends. I told her I could never be just friends with her. This went on for weeks when I told her to please stop calling me. Two months went by when she called again and told me she missed having sex with me, wanted to have sex with me, the man she is with is driving her nuts because of his religious views, and she wanted me to convince her to come back to me. I explained to her that I will not be a part of cheating on her current relationship, I still do love her and would take her back if she were free, and threw it back in her face by asking how she would feel if the man she was with had a conversation like this one with another woman (probably a big mistake on my part!). She chose to stay with the other man. Six more months have gone by for a total of about a year and four months. She is still with this other man and still keeps calling me every month or so to see if we can be just friends...my answer is still the same. I just wish she would stay out of my life so I can move on. I have moved on but when she calls she brings back the pain of a lost love. Why won't she leave me alone? Well, sounds like she is fishing - wants to make sure you are still out there and still have feelings for her. Have you thought about asking her to stop contacting you?
CaliGuy Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 You're doing the right thing. My suggestion to you is to not answer her calls. Let them go to VM. Obviously the guy is not bothering her that much if she's still with him after all this time. That, or she is a needy woman who can't be happy being single.
coffeemaker Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 If you're dead serious about moving on, I'd just continue to ignore her calls/emails/text messages. Don't listen to her messages. Don't read her emails. Don't open her texts. If she doesn't get the hint, you could just tell her to stop contacting you. If she still doesn't stop with the phone calls, block her number. Unfortunately drastic but effective.
Peter_pan Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 she still has feelings for you. i must have gone out with a right weird girl. she hasnt contacted me at all. and she was the one that went out with another guy, they ent together now. i must mean nothing to her
bish Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Six more months have gone by for a total of about a year and four months. She is still with this other man and still keeps calling me every month or so to see if we can be just friends Ya right...tell us another good one. She is direspecting this other guy by calling you. You are X's for a reason, and that reason isn't so you can remain friends and still see each other trying to pretend something isn't there. I wouldn't want someone like this and this guy she is with doesn't deserve that. Why won't she leave me alone? Because she wants you to be her backup plan.
nopainnogain Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 You're doing the right thing. My suggestion to you is to not answer her calls. Let them go to VM. . Let her meditate to the dial tone
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