AdrianaLima Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I just have a simple question.My question is, have your significant other always,or sometimes, make you feel like you are the bad person all the time when you know that it is not true?If so, how did you express yourself to him or her to get your feelings across to them?Because, this is something that I am currently going through. I'm always talking to him and letting him know how that makes me feel, but it seems as though it's not clicking for him.Sometimes if we get into an argument or something comes up, he likes to turn everything around on me. It's like,what else can I do?Thanks to all with some thoughtful advice.
Keridan Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 That's a tough one. Everyone is prone to seeing themselves as the right one. It can be very hard to break that habbit. Have you tried talking with a mediator there? Not someone to take sides, but someone to help communicate things in a new way? A counselor, priest, or some other independant party? It's especially easy to fall into these patterns with someone with whom we regularly argue. It's hard to take another tact when we know we can just fall back on old stand-by answers. If you don't feel like you ever get your side across, maybe try a new approach? Sorry I don't have a better answer. Other posters may be more help. I do wish you luck, though!
JackJack Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Why would you want to stay with someone who makes you feel like you're the bad person or who turns things around on you? Doesn't sound healthy.
PandorasBox Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 No, you're not a bad person. But you do need to rethink why it is you're with someone who always makes you feel bad.
mental_traveller Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I just have a simple question.My question is, have your significant other always,or sometimes, make you feel like you are the bad person all the time when you know that it is not true?If so, how did you express yourself to him or her to get your feelings across to them?Because, this is something that I am currently going through. I'm always talking to him and letting him know how that makes me feel, but it seems as though it's not clicking for him.Sometimes if we get into an argument or something comes up, he likes to turn everything around on me. It's like,what else can I do?Thanks to all with some thoughtful advice. No, I've never had that luckily - nothing more than occasionally heated comments during an argument. I would just ask, are you sure this is how he is decribing you? Does he actually say "AdrianaLima, you're a bad person, I hate your guts"? Or is that just how you feel when you have an argument with him?
Author AdrianaLima Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 No, I've never had that luckily - nothing more than occasionally heated comments during an argument. I would just ask, are you sure this is how he is decribing you? Does he actually say "AdrianaLima, you're a bad person, I hate your guts"? Or is that just how you feel when you have an argument with him? He doesn't necessarily say that I am a bad person, that's the impression that I always tend to get when we argue about something. It's like the finger is always pointed at me, and I'm the fault for everything.
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