Tracey111 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 My ex and I broke up last November after a 6 year relationship...It did not end nicely. He always had committment issues and it came to a head after he cheated on me and gave me HSV2. Nice. So, I said to him that he had nothing to offer me, no intentions of offerring me anything and not to bother calling me anymore. I'm done. Fast forward.....I run into him on Good Friday at a mutual hang out musicians club and he does every thing he can to talk to me. I have no interest in talking to him and make it clear by walking away. He starts questioning a mutual friend of ours about how I am, am I seeing anyone and basically looking like he is going to throw up. I think this is great to see him so ungrounded. that's the end of that contact. Last week he calls the mutual friend to see how I'm doing. I want to scream. I want nothing to do with him. He can't undersatnd why I won't talk to him. Our friend tells him he needs help and that he is still in love with me and can't commit. He yells "SHE WON"T EVEN SPEAK TO ME"> I guess what does me in is this....he is friends with all his exes. I am not. This guy lied to me, gave me an incurable STD that I can't tell anyone about, is shady in terms of what he wants from me and I know he would be happy to be 'friends with benefits' if he could get away with it. He doesn;t want me to hate him. He feels guilty and if I speak to him and never mention any of the relationship issues, he is a 'good guy''. And, he stills doesn't have to deal with any of his ****. We are both musicians and he is a big fish in a small pond around here and word travels fast. He is immature and I know that about him. He will be 54 in September and thinks he is still 25 with time to burn. I just don't want to reconcile with him if he isn't doing any thereapy and I know he isn't. I don't wnat to be his friend so that I can become part of his exes group as all 'his exes are his friend'. I am still very angry at him and want to blow him off the planet. Every time I have a Herpes outbreak, I wnat to kill him and I do....in my mind. Any advice on how to deal with him....he just never goes away.
Tripper Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Sorry you are going through this, bummer about the STD.. but you really are better off without this guy in your life. Since he's acting like a child, you will have to take the high road and act like the parent. When you can calm down and rationally have a conversation with him tell him exactly why you don't want to have anything to do with him. Ie: you cheated, you gave me an STD etc... If he has a problem then ask him what, specifically, he doesn't understand. Bottom line is don't take anymore of his crap.
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