4givrnt4gtr Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 if you saw a text message from some girl to your SO saying "im giving up"? And you think you may have heard him talking about this girl as a friend but are not sure? how should I bring this up? i dont want him to know i was snooping...but i really want to clearify who this girl is and what she is giving up on... (quick background, he and I are starting over after a huge breakup due to some innaproppiate texting. Im trying to trust him but its so hard not to check up on him) In reality its not bad either way because if he had been talking to her when we broke up the fact that she said she is "giving up" says he hasnt contact her for a while. If she is a friend she may be refering to something else....sooo tricky. I just dont want to make a big deal out of nothing... Suggestions?
Amiss Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 It's awful when you snoop and find ambiguous things out because you can't raise the issue unless it is serious. Can you not pretend to have seen his phone by mistake? If the message is making you upset ,you will have to ask him about it or live in a constant limbo.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 It's awful when you snoop and find ambiguous things out because you can't raise the issue unless it is serious. Can you not pretend to have seen his phone by mistake? If the message is making you upset ,you will have to ask him about it or live in a constant limbo. Well, not really, as that is how i found out the innapropiate texts last time. He knows i checked his phone so me telling him i accidentally saw a text its kind of silly... I did learn my lesson with this newfound thing...if im going to give him a chance i am going to have to trust him. My instincts tell me its nothing...and as I said, i think ive heard him talk about this girl as a friend so in reality, for all i know, she may be talking about giving up on figuring out her computer, or her boyfriend, or anything really. But the angst of it all is not worth it. So far he has been nothing but loving and seems to truly have learned to appreciate me in our time apart, so in reality its not fair of me to suspect him like this... Still....now im really raking my brain to remember when he mentioned her...its bugging me. And i cant ask him without putting myself out there...how irritating
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 See you just got back together, and all these assumptions are arising out of you. Stop being so insecure! Snap out of it!!! Next time throw his phone away if you hear an incoming message. Saves you from alot of migraines later on.
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