e11631975 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I broke off a two year relationship as I felt she was not right for me. I soon learned that I made a huge mistake as my feelings were very deep for her. After the break-up she immediately went on a popular dating site and soon found someone. She began calling me to tell me she wanted to be friends. I told her I could never be just friends with her. This went on for weeks when I told her to please stop calling me. Two months went by when she called again and told me she missed having sex with me, wanted to have sex with me, the man she is with is driving her nuts because of his religious views, and she wanted me to convince her to come back to me. I explained to her that I will not be a part of cheating on her current relationship, I still do love her and would take her back if she were free, and threw it back in her face by asking how she would feel if the man she was with had a conversation like this one with another woman (probably a big mistake on my part!). She chose to stay with the other man. Six more months have gone by for a total of about a year and four months. She is still with this other man and still keeps calling me every month or so to see if we can be just friends...my answer is still the same. I just wish she would stay out of my life so I can move on. I have moved on but when she calls she brings back the pain of a lost love. Why won't she leave me alone?
JustinWolf Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Sex? Maybe it's just because she wants to keep you close to her so she's knows what you're up to. See if you're still attached to the rope.
theobserver Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Look you gave her an opening to end the relationship with this other man if she wants to even consider a life with you which you pretty much guaranteed and she chose to stay with him. She's clearly tormenting you in hopes to get some nookie on the side in this clouded "friendship" proposal. Clearly she does regret leaving you and is now in a stale boring relationship but doesn't have the balls to bail in a sense this is the ideal situation we all wish on our ex's . However you are the smart one here, you have a good head on your shoulders and you don't want to be part of any cheating. Two things you can do. If you really want her out of your life there's nothing you can do but change your number my friend. Yes it's annoying to have to contact friends, banks companies of the change of number but it has to be done. Alternatively have the telephone company block her number. or The next time she calls inform her she has a choice (presuming you want a relationship with her still) if she wants to be with you to leave him and take a chance on me doo doo do doo doo sorry cough erm... and that if that's not going to happen then sorry you will be changing your number etc as you have no wish to be "just friends" nor believe that's her intentions. This will sort out the dilema once and for all. Good Luck.
Author e11631975 Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 Thank you for the two responses...can I please have a few more opinions, maybe a woman or two?
Author e11631975 Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Yeah, she will call me at home as a "private name, private number" will show up on the caller ID. I know it is her and when I answer she'll hang up. But every time she does this, I know I will be getting a call at work at the fire station. This last time, about one or two months ago, I answered the phone at work and the first words out of her mouth were how immature I am for not wanting to be friends, we've known each other for a long time, bla-bla-bla. I was stern and hung up the phone. I'm about due for another call. This girl is a 5'9" fashion model for crap sakes, she is beautiful! She is with someone else, why keep calling me???
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