Angel1111 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Do you ever find yourself re-thinking how you view the whole idea of love? I recently realized that I question it a lot in terms of how I once saw it, and how it really seems to be. I don't think I have as much faith in it that I once did and that makes me sad. But, then, I wonder if I just needed to grow up because I put too much stock in it. But it's like a light has gone out in my eyes because I no longer know if it's something I can believe in anymore. And now I wonder if I will always feel this way.
Leoni Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I understand what you're saying, loud and clear. The concept of love can be tarnished by experiences, in that you've experienced pain from prior relationships so you guard yourself closer. In doing so, you end up not being willing to open up enough to allow the full impact and essence of love, which is to feel and share everything with your partner. If you want this beauty back, you have to be prepared to push the doors wide open again. To use your experience though, you can offset the initial naivety with the natural filters acquired to ensure you do this with someone who's worth it, someone who can return in full, what you have to give.
bigmanpayne Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 experiences change the way we all feel. i have given up. i only date and keep it moving - not looking for love - never want it again - wondering if it is even real, or something we make up to make ourselves feel better. bad expeirences usually blind you (or so i have been told) and that is probably where i am coming from, but so what. love is for kids. sorry for being so cynical.
LonelyVocalist Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I'd say Neil Gaiman defined my feelings of this best: “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
Leoni Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Ouch! That Gaiman quote hits home hard. It's not literary genius, in that the phrasing reminds me of a sixteen year old but oh, man, it's so appropriate.
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