kerrieberrie Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I've been seeing this guy for about a month or so now, and last friday, we went back to his place to watch some DVD. now.. before we got together, i have definitely asked to his face, if he was single and he said yes ok, and I believe him then~ ok~ here's what happened on friday. While i was at his place, his house phone started ringing at 3am, he just said ' i can't believe people are calling this time of the night' dismissed it, left it ringing ...... ??? it could be an emergency? what? scenario no2. he lives on his own, there were 2 bathrooms ok. 1 on the corridor for everyone and 1 ensuite. There were 2 toothbrushes and 1 female moisturiser pack thing in the ensuite. I know, my friends have all said ' why don't you just ask'... how can I without sounding like a complete crazy person? I like him ALOT, so, I'm being extra cautious.... need your opinions please... i'm genuinely worried. ps~ I've realised I's stuck it in the wrong section
whichwayisup Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 You like him, but you HAVE to find out if he is involved with someone or married (could be separated.) Don't pretend or guess -Ask him.
Mr. Lucky Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 before we got together, i have definitely asked to his face, if he was single and he said yes ok, and I believe him then~ I think she did ask. Doesn't seem like much evidence for alarm. The toiletries could just be a holdover from a previous "guest"... Mr. Lucky
silktricks Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 What exactly are you suspicious about? You've been seeing the guy for a month. He told you he is single, right? The odds are high that he is seeing more than just you.
Author kerrieberrie Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 What exactly are you suspicious about? You've been seeing the guy for a month. He told you he is single, right? The odds are high that he is seeing more than just you. sorry, but I really don't understand why you make it sound like it's 'normal' practise? don't people do one person at a time, even though they're not official. find someone else when that girl fails... and if you know that girl's not right for you, then why bother continuing seeing each other? my suspicion are the fact that I am the third person on this relationship. It's ok that it doesn't work out, but I don't want to be messing with someone's bf, fiance, husband.... for the toiletries to have made it to the ensuite bathroom, esp a toothbrush, means something a little bit more serious, then a passing 'guest'...
silktricks Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 sorry, but I really don't understand why you make it sound like it's 'normal' practise? don't people do one person at a time, even though they're not official. find someone else when that girl fails... and if you know that girl's not right for you, then why bother continuing seeing each other? my suspicion are the fact that I am the third person on this relationship. It's ok that it doesn't work out, but I don't want to be messing with someone's bf, fiance, husband.... for the toiletries to have made it to the ensuite bathroom, esp a toothbrush, means something a little bit more serious, then a passing 'guest'... I made it sound like it's "normal" practice, because it is normal practice. Many people who are single - who define themselves as single - and are dating - are dating more than one person. And often those dating relationships include bedroom privileges . You asked the wrong question. If what you wanted to know was "are we in an exclusive relationship" then that is what you should ask. You may not get an honest answer, though, it depends on the guy.
Potatocakes Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Could be another 'lady friend' left some personals behind, and who knows how long ago she was there maybe he just never got around to throwing them away. As long as you two arnt excusive I dont see a problem plus if he did have a girlfriend/wife there would be a lot more of her things around the place.
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