GPFan Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 That okay? I hope so... I figure not responding twice in a row is rude.You're doing fine! Oh and congrats on the killer résumé!
Author D-Lish Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 It would be rude, yes. I wouldn't have responded so quickly - I would still have waited a day, told him I had plans, and then tried to set something up for like, WED. But again, I'm bitter - what do I know? I can't wait to hear where HD takes you, and all about the date! Considering you don't even know his name, this will be so interesting! hahahaha- I know his name. He left it on the voicemail. It's a very common name that starts with a J and ends with an F. Or maybe starts with a G if his parents wanted to be decidedly different and be a little creative. I DON"T know his age. But am guessing 32. And yeah- I could have waited. I did wait 20 min- lol. Right now the jerk who insulted me is pinging me with texts.... hmmm, wonder why- it's 2am.... just past last call. Yeah- D-lish still isn't answering- nor will she. Thanks Mr. Berry.... I am happy to get the job thing happening.
Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 hahahaha- I know his name. He left it on the voicemail. It's a very common name that starts with a J and ends with an F. Or maybe starts with a G if his parents wanted to be decidedly different and be a little creative. I DON"T know his age. But am guessing 32. And yeah- I could have waited. I did wait 20 min- lol. Right now the jerk who insulted me is pinging me with texts.... hmmm, wonder why- it's 2am.... just past last call. Yeah- D-lish still isn't answering- nor will she. Thanks Mr. Berry.... I am happy to get the job thing happening. What boy name ends in an F, besides OLAF?! Well, anyhoo - somehow it made the date more enticing in my mind that you didn't know his name. Now it's just like a NORMAL date - lol. 32? Good - I am happy to see you dating someone closer in age who (hopefully) won't play the games like the man child. Please keep us updated! I so hope it goes well and he's not a boob.
Author D-Lish Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 What boy name ends in an F, besides OLAF?! Well, anyhoo - somehow it made the date more enticing in my mind that you didn't know his name. Now it's just like a NORMAL date - lol. 32? Good - I am happy to see you dating someone closer in age who (hopefully) won't play the games like the man child. Please keep us updated! I so hope it goes well and he's not a boob. haha- it's Jeff...or Geoff... not sure yet- and thanks- we'll see. Sick of the little boys.
Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 haha- it's Jeff...or Geoff... not sure yet- and thanks- we'll see. Sick of the little boys. Der, Jeff!!! Well, he'll always be HD Olaf to me... Yes, 32! And think of the employee discount! All good stuff, D. (And I'm sick of ALL of them, but, we all know I am WAY BIT-TER and committed to letting myself go so as never to attract male attention again.) Wonder where he will take you for dinner!!!???
Author D-Lish Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 Der, Jeff!!! Well, he'll always be HD Olaf to me... Yes, 32! And think of the employee discount! All good stuff, D. (And I'm sick of ALL of them, but, we all know I am WAY BIT-TER and committed to letting myself go so as never to attract male attention again.) Wonder where he will take you for dinner!!!??? Well every HD has a hot dog stand out front..! lol. I'm bitter too JB, have been for about 6 years now. It's a bad place to be! I posted a pic in my album of the rat-b that knocked up another woman in my album. He would be the cause of my demise into scraping the barrel dating young jerks and stalkers. Baller is just having a knee jerk reaction with what he has done. Would you have stayed with him if he was remaining local? And a better question is- would you have let yourself love him?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 i have to jump in here. People are saying he is playing games by waiting 6 days, and I think that is unfair. He was probably surprised by this situation. Pleasantly surprised, might I add. But seriously, if some random guy gave me his number out of the blue, i would probably wait a bit too. who is this person? Why are they interested in me? Give the guy a break. D-Lish, I do think it is awesome that you were so ballsy in giving him your number. Props to you.
Author D-Lish Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 i have to jump in here. People are saying he is playing games by waiting 6 days, and I think that is unfair. He was probably surprised by this situation. Pleasantly surprised, might I add. But seriously, if some random guy gave me his number out of the blue, i would probably wait a bit too. who is this person? Why are they interested in me? Give the guy a break. D-Lish, I do think it is awesome that you were so ballsy in giving him your number. Props to you. thanks CB... well wish me luck! I am off to meet him now. Yikers.
daphne Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I really agree with CB. I know you're on your date, but 6 days really isn't a big deal. People do get busy, and sometimes have to work up to it. I like to give people teh more of the benefit of the doubt early on, since you don't know them and you have different expectations and it can crash and burn on too many of them.
Author D-Lish Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 I really agree with CB. I know you're on your date, but 6 days really isn't a big deal. People do get busy, and sometimes have to work up to it. I like to give people teh more of the benefit of the doubt early on, since you don't know them and you have different expectations and it can crash and burn on too many of them. well, I agree that the 6 days wasn't a big deal breaker. After meeting him I see why he took so long to call. Really, really nervous guy. Nice enough... but he was sweating buckets...lol. All I can say is good for me for stepping out of my comfort zone and doing what I did. It's not a match. He's far too shy- nice... but too quiet and I didn't feel anything romantic at all.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Well you gave it a shot, and that's worth something! Sometimes it is just refreshing to meet nice people, whether or not it is a match. Gives you some faith.
Jilly Bean Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 well, I agree that the 6 days wasn't a big deal breaker. After meeting him I see why he took so long to call. Really, really nervous guy. Nice enough... but he was sweating buckets...lol. All I can say is good for me for stepping out of my comfort zone and doing what I did. It's not a match. He's far too shy- nice... but too quiet and I didn't feel anything romantic at all. Well, it was still a ballsy thing to do! And yes, good for you! Where did he take you? Hot dog stand? What did you guys talk about?
Author D-Lish Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 Well you gave it a shot, and that's worth something! Sometimes it is just refreshing to meet nice people, whether or not it is a match. Gives you some faith. Yeah, it wasn't like it was a waste of a night or anything. I got fed. He offered to pay but I split it with him. I always do that when I know I probably won't want a second date.
johan Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I suppose you took a shower and brushed your teeth before you went. Didn't you.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Yeah, it wasn't like it was a waste of a night or anything. I got fed. He offered to pay but I split it with him. I always do that when I know I probably won't want a second date. Congrats to you for such a ballsy move! I've always wanted to try it, but am usually WAY to nervous to do it, so I fall back to my placement strategy, ie. placing myself in the right place so that he would make the move, but some guys are too shy to make the first move, so I've been tempted, but have much respect for you for doing it! So what makes you think you wouldn't even want date #2 with him?! Maybe he was just really nervous, and hence quiet this first date. Do you think he may open up if you agreed to see him again? He sounds cute!
Author D-Lish Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 Congrats to you for such a ballsy move! I've always wanted to try it, but am usually WAY to nervous to do it, so I fall back to my placement strategy, ie. placing myself in the right place so that he would make the move, but some guys are too shy to make the first move, so I've been tempted, but have much respect for you for doing it! So what makes you think you wouldn't even want date #2 with him?! Maybe he was just really nervous, and hence quiet this first date. Do you think he may open up if you agreed to see him again? He sounds cute! Not sure- just didn't feel any chemistry. He was cute, just too introverted- and I am attracted to animated individuals. Prior to him calling I had decided to take a break from dating anyway. I still plan on sticking to that for a bit. I want to land a job and get back to working, get a little more settled peronally anyway. It was just like pulling teeth to get him talking... and that sort of tired me out. Not sorry I did it though!
LoveDeluxe78 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 D-Lish: Ok, I'm resurrecting this post! Apparently I have not learned my lesson and continue to find guys attractive at their places of employment! lol However, they have always done the asking as I just tend to flirt with them and leave it at that! But this guy, the place he works is a bit far away from me and it doesn't work that I can go there everyday to establish some type of flirtatious rapport, so questions for you: 1. do you write it on a piece of paper and hand it to him? 2. should you be flirty, shy, friendly, or straight to the point..when you hand it to him? 3. what was the waiting period like? was it harder than if the guy had asked YOU for your number? Ok, those to start for now! Hope I get a response as any pointers would help! lol Not sure- just didn't feel any chemistry. He was cute, just too introverted- and I am attracted to animated individuals. Prior to him calling I had decided to take a break from dating anyway. I still plan on sticking to that for a bit. I want to land a job and get back to working, get a little more settled peronally anyway. It was just like pulling teeth to get him talking... and that sort of tired me out. Not sorry I did it though!
johan Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 ...and I am attracted to animated individuals. It's a shame that most of the animated guys are taken. Homer, for instance, is nothing if not dedicated to Marge. I guess you could always see what Elmer has to offer.
Author D-Lish Posted August 22, 2008 Author Posted August 22, 2008 D-Lish: Ok, I'm resurrecting this post! Apparently I have not learned my lesson and continue to find guys attractive at their places of employment! lol However, they have always done the asking as I just tend to flirt with them and leave it at that! But this guy, the place he works is a bit far away from me and it doesn't work that I can go there everyday to establish some type of flirtatious rapport, so questions for you: 1. do you write it on a piece of paper and hand it to him? 2. should you be flirty, shy, friendly, or straight to the point..when you hand it to him? 3. what was the waiting period like? was it harder than if the guy had asked YOU for your number? Ok, those to start for now! Hope I get a response as any pointers would help! lol I wrote my number on a piece of paper and handed it to him. I only did this after he gave me the green light with his signals. He did take 6 days to call, but he did call. It was a ballsy move- one I have never made before. He did call though. I declined a second date when he asked, he's not my thing. If he's working- it's inappropriate for him to give u his number... so you might have to make the move yourself. I got the signals from him first- or I wouldn't have given him that number. I don't like approaching guys- it's not my thing. But I did it, and he called- so even though it didn't work out... at least I did it.
KaRo Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I'm sure my post won't convince you, but it's possible he might open up on subsequent dates. Probably not worth it to you, even if that were a guarentee. I'm not saying you should or anything, but... I'm sure this didn't help his self-esteem any, which is a shame, as I'm sure the situation was initially great confidence booster. But if you didn't feel anything, you really can't do much I guess.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Yeah, it's so not me either! And this guy has been giving me the green light the last 3 times I was there! So I figured it might be worth a shot. As for your situation not working out, that is irrelevant as that can happen in any given dating situation. So again, kudos to you for that ballsy move! I may just try it! I wrote my number on a piece of paper and handed it to him. I only did this after he gave me the green light with his signals. He did take 6 days to call, but he did call. It was a ballsy move- one I have never made before. He did call though. I declined a second date when he asked, he's not my thing. If he's working- it's inappropriate for him to give u his number... so you might have to make the move yourself. I got the signals from him first- or I wouldn't have given him that number. I don't like approaching guys- it's not my thing. But I did it, and he called- so even though it didn't work out... at least I did it.
BentSpine Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 D-Lish, don't worry about showing interest first. It would make me feel valued which is a good thing. On the other hand, you know by now that men will probably take sex if we are offered it. Waiting to have sex will give us men time to discover likable personlity traits in the woman. And it's those traits we like that make us want to stay and hug the woman, instead of leaving, when the intimate deed is over.
Mako482 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Uh....this guy works at Home Depot. Set your sights higher, hon. Pretty shallow stuff right there. You do know Home Depot is a popular part-time place to work right? I know a lot of firefighters/paramedics who work there during their 48 hour off period. Either way, shallow.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Pretty shallow stuff right there. You do know Home Depot is a popular part-time place to work right? I know a lot of firefighters/paramedics who work there during their 48 hour off period. Either way, shallow. I know a lot of pilots who have worked there after being furloughed. It's not a good time for the aviation industry, obviously.
Mako482 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I know a lot of pilots who have worked there after being furloughed. It's not a good time for the aviation industry, obviously. I don't doubt it, it's a cool "guy place" to work. But like I said, someone who thinks this way is shallow anyway. Just my opinion, you are who you are.
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