iwanttolive Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I don't feel like shopping, dressing up, eating healthy and going to the gym anymore. I don't see any purpose in looking good anymore. Basically I just feel like decaying and degenerating. Do you guys feel the same way after a break-up? Who do you look good for when ur single? For myself, doesn't feel like a motivation
cyabye Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Know how you feel. I've been stuck in that rut for over 10 yrs (married) now. Eventually gotta do something but everyone deserves a break. cyabye
JustinWolf Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I like to look good for all the other people. Just cuz we're hurt and all, doesn't mean there aren't other people out there. Also, when you run into them, you'll look even better than last time. Their loss.
Author iwanttolive Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 But other people will not feel anything whether you look good or plain?
JustinWolf Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Well... Imagine you're sitting at a coffeeshop and this person you find rather attractive is sitting on the other table face in his/her notebook, probably writing his/her next chef d'oeuvre. You are there looking morbid and half dead... Now, imagine this scenario again but this time the person you find attractive is actually looking at YOU cuz you are shining and looking absolutely wonderful. eh?
D-Lish Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 After every break up I do something positive for myself- get a new hair do, hit the gym hard... buy new clothes. I use that pain as motivation to look my best. It's the one thing I have control over- my emotions are all over the place, but I can control doing something positive for my looks and my body. Ultimately- when I like how I look, it makes me feel better. I make sure to be looking my best even if I walk the dogs or go to the grocery store... just in case! You never know who you could run into or meet. The other day I went to the gym and my gym is in a mall... I was leaving, looking all sweaty and certainly not my best... and I walked smack-dab into my ex and his new gf. I was mortified for him to see me like that when his new gf was a total hottie. I got caught looking like crap and I could have kicked myself! SO, you never know! getting dressed up, putting on some make up and looking fine is a good thing to do to make yourself feel better! Even though you are feeling rotten- don't give up on doing nice things for yourself- pampering yourself is what you should be doing right now! Even if you have to force yourself to get outof the house once a day- it's a positive step. It's tempting to isolate and bum around in your pj's... but it's not healthy for you.
Author iwanttolive Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 That's very motivating, D-Lish Yes, I should start dressing-up and putting on make-up. I have to look in-control, though i'm really broken inside.. I believe I just hit the rock bottom. I was dumped last Monday.. And last Friday was my birthday and he was so cold to me. On his birthday in June I surprised him by inviting his friends to celebrate together. I also got him the t-shirts he really wanted which he did not buy cos it was too expensive. To top the depressing birthday, I had stomach ulcer. My friend had to send me to hospital after the birthday dinner
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