Jambi86 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 We were together for a little over a year and it was great. She told me I was the best thing thats ever happened to her etc. etc. etc. Then towards the end I could tell something was wrong and when I tried to talk about it she would blame it on other things in her life. Shes 33 and im 22. its a huge age diff i know. We've been broken up for 4 months now. but we still talk daily and say goodnight hang out and go places together and have a good time every so often we would get in huge emotional talks that would lead to us saying we'd take things day by day etc. she says the she loves me and that she needs me that im very important to her things like that. About 2 weeks ago she told me she had been talking to someone else. They'd been talking and hanging out once an awhile. She says nothings happened and I be leave her shes not the type to live with a lie for long. She says she doesn't see anything serious with him happening but she does like him. I think maybe she just needs to try something else for a change. Today we got into another talk thing and I told her I couldn't do it anymore. We decided that we weren't going to talk for awhile. Witch i think will help us or break us. I want the feelings she has left to stay. Its hard to keep the space when I know I could be losing her further. I figured that if they were gonna end up together its gonna happen eather way she said this to me "I just don't want you to wait around while i figure out what im doing with my life. I hate hurting you. Your so important to me .I just don't know." She also told me that she knows that if she was with me that i would give her what she wanted. I guess she just doesn't feel it or something. I really want it to work out. do you guys think that space will help or should i just try and move on? I don't have anyone to talk about this with thats why i turned to strangers. I'd love to hear what people think about my situation its hard to think rationally when im so emotional. I feel like I really need help. Im sure i'm forgetting to say something but thats about where im at. please help me.
JustinWolf Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 There's no reasons for you to wait for her. If it's mean't to be it will. For now, concentrate on yourself and you should date. Go out there and have fun, maybe you'll find someone. At the same time, you'll be giving her space because you'll be out having fun.
Ally Boo Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 The guy I've been with (I use the term loosely because it was internet based), is about 10 years my junior. We recently went through the same thing. I met a guy my age and broke things off with him to pursue it. It took about a month before I realized that the guy I'd had all along was better for me. I think it was one final step I needed to take to get past the age barrier (I didn't realize it was such a big deal- but it was to me). He'd get upset about it sometimes and so would I. It was a painful lesson to learn, but it did serve it's purpose. Moral of the story: If it's meant to happen, it will. Just be there for her and know that in the end it will work out the way it should.
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