renaissancewoman101 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I want to have a bf in my life. I miss having someone close to me, someone to do stuff with, have sex with, wake up to, etc. It's been so long. My biggest problem is that I tend to isolate myself. Besides working, I stay home a lot. I do go out shopping and out to hang out with my friends, but that's about all. Lately, I've started taking an art class. Been doing that for about two months, and have joined some social groups. Have met a few people at these places, but no one dateworthy and guys don't seem all that attracted to me. Art class is hard, since I dress grungy since it can be messy, and I tend to get stuff on me (hair, clothes, etc), by the end of the class. I do know guys are attracted to me. Just this past week, a guy who was visiting someone who lives on my floor, started chatting me up in the elevator, and invited me over to his friend's for a drink. I declined because I had just come back from exercising and was really tired. I've done the online dating before, and seem to meet more weird people and people out for ONS, rather than guys looking for relationships. Also, should I be the proactive one, and start chatting up guys I find interesting?
refurb Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Yes on the chatting guys up. You'll make yourself a lot more approachable if you are outgoing. RF
Linux Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I want to have a bf in my life. I miss having someone close to me, someone to do stuff with, have sex with, wake up to, etc. It's been so long. My biggest problem is that I tend to isolate myself. Besides working, I stay home a lot. I do go out shopping and out to hang out with my friends, but that's about all. Lately, I've started taking an art class. Been doing that for about two months, and have joined some social groups. Have met a few people at these places, but no one dateworthy and guys don't seem all that attracted to me. Art class is hard, since I dress grungy since it can be messy, and I tend to get stuff on me (hair, clothes, etc), by the end of the class. I do know guys are attracted to me. Just this past week, a guy who was visiting someone who lives on my floor, started chatting me up in the elevator, and invited me over to his friend's for a drink. I declined because I had just come back from exercising and was really tired. I've done the online dating before, and seem to meet more weird people and people out for ONS, rather than guys looking for relationships. Also, should I be the proactive one, and start chatting up guys I find interesting? http://www.craigslist.org
lilmisscheerful Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 People always say join social groups etc. but I've joined drama groups, sports clubs, book clubs etc. and never met a guy I'd like to date. A lot of the guys around my age (28) are either in a LTR or just want to play the field. I've tried speed dating and that was quite fun. I've never really had much luck internet dating. So I do relate to how you're feeling hun.
mousse Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I think the first question to ask yourself when you want to meet a potential boyfriend is what type of boyfriend do you want/need, what type of personality would he have. When you know that, then choose activities where a person like that is most likely to go. I meet a lot of interesting guys when I go to foreign language classes or clubs. They're usually very talkative, cultured and open minded.
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