Lauriebell82 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I've had guys text/call me when they are drunk and tell me something then the next morning apologize and don't remember what the heck they had said. It sucks to hear a guy say "sorry for texting you last night, I was drunk and don't remember what I said." So it is quite a possibility that if someone drunk texts/calls you they may not mean/know what exactly they are saying at the time, since as most of the others said it lowers inhibitions. If someone is sober, I'd take what they said seriously. Other than that, I'd be hesitant to believe anything that a drunk guy has done/said to me. (in my experience anyway)
BrooklynBridge Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 There's a Jewish philosophical concept from the Talmud that says: "When the wine enters the body, the secrets reveal themselves" I think b/c of the lowered inhibitions, people are much more honest and forget that they are gonna say things they are otherwise afraid to say.......
sfsassy Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I would infer some romantic/sexual/erotic interest. Alcohol lowers the fear of rejection. The sauce does not make one like X as opposed to Y. The feelings are there, no matter how sodden. If you spurn the guy's pickled "feelers" he can always claim the suds made him do it. No harm, no foul. Beer bravery. That was my point. You just said it better than me. Though with me is is wine, bloody mary or cosmopolitan bravery!
sfsassy Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I've had guys text/call me when they are drunk and tell me something then the next morning apologize and don't remember what the heck they had said. It sucks to hear a guy say "sorry for texting you last night, I was drunk and don't remember what I said." So it is quite a possibility that if someone drunk texts/calls you they may not mean/know what exactly they are saying at the time, since as most of the others said it lowers inhibitions. If someone is sober, I'd take what they said seriously. Other than that, I'd be hesitant to believe anything that a drunk guy has done/said to me. (in my experience anyway) I think those guys were just making excuses, not actually not remembering, In the harsh light of day, they just don't like what they said!
sfsassy Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Well, for example... He did this last night, sending REALLY flirty, complimentary texts (which I quite enjoyed ). I responded by basically telling him I felt the same way. This morning, he sent a message basically apologizing for drunk texting. In a way, it seems like he's taking back what he said. So now I feel a bit silly. Ugh. I analyze too much. I'll just wait for him to say these sorts of things while sober, if ever. He might be embarresed, or may think you are embarressed. Why not text him and just say you really liked the complimets?
Author Star Gazer Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 He might be embarresed, or may think you are embarressed. Why not text him and just say you really liked the complimets? I did. I got this back:
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I think those guys were just making excuses, not actually not remembering, In the harsh light of day, they just don't like what they said! Maybe they did like it, they just don't want the girl they said it to to think they're crazy or something.
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 That's so mean Arise Hey! I'm not trying to be mean! Just a possiblity! Im not the best looking guy, but yet some women think i am very attractive! its weird! But hey, if SG looks anything like her avatar, she's hot in my book!!!!
Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Maybe they did like it, they just don't want the girl they said it to to think they're crazy or something. Yeah, the one time my drunk friend sent me this nasty text message and I showed it to him the next day. He looked sooooo embarrassed and was paranoid that he sent something like that to a girl he was interested in dating. He told me he was going to leave his cell phone at home went he went out to get trashed because of what he said.
Lishy Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Hey! I'm not trying to be mean! Just a possiblity! Im not the best looking guy, but yet some women think i am very attractive! its weird! But hey, if SG looks anything like her avatar, she's hot in my book!!!! I think that is Nicole Kidman
jerbear Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 But hey, if SG looks anything like her avatar, she's hot in my book!!!! SG is a cutie but no one should tell her that.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 I think that is Nicole Kidman Actually, it's not. Sorry to burst your bubble, Lishy. Now please, if you're down for negativity, STAY OUT OF MY THREADS. Thanks.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Actually, it's not. Sorry to burst your bubble, Lishy. Now please, if you're down for negativity, STAY OUT OF MY THREADS. Thanks. Both positive and negative feedback is part of posting on loveshack as I have learned.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 Both positive and negative feedback is part of posting on loveshack as I have learned. What a petty response, LB!!!! Then again, I'm not surprised. Snide comments regarding my appearance (my avatar) is not constructive in any way, nor relevant to this thread. Give me a break.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 What a petty response, LB!!!! Then again, I'm not surprised. Snide comments regarding my appearance (my avatar) is not constructive in any way, nor relevant to this thread. Give me a break. Its not petty, It's stating a fact. Actually that was not a snide comment at all. It wasn't directed to anyone to hurt them at all. I don't see how it would. A fact most of the posters on loveshack have said numerous times, including said to me. Just an observation, but snide comments are made all the time as well. Again, not directed towards anyone, I'm just setting the record straight here.
Lishy Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 WHOA ..... How is it negative? I said that the pic you are using is Nicole Kidman, how is that snide?
Lishy Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 SG is a cutie but no one should tell her that. Was that not relating to the original post either? I did not see you stamping and shouting then! Wow you are pretty sensitive for a girl who likes to dish out 'tough love'
Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 WHOA ..... How is it negative? I said that the pic you are using is Nicole Kidman, how is that snide? I think the OP thought that my comment was snide..which it wasn't. Neither comment was directed to be mean though so we can get back to the original subject at hand.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Well anyway back to the original topic. I don't know if drunk texting should be taken seriously if not by someone who you are close to (bf, friend, ect.) If they are embarrassed at what they had texted (which everyone usually is) then usually there is a foundation enough where they aren't running for the hills or cut ties because they are too humiliated. Generally inhibitions are lowered when drunk, so it is a much better idea to interact by text with someone who is not trashed.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 WHOA ..... How is it negative? I said that the pic you are using is Nicole Kidman, how is that snide? Because you're trying to say it's not ME, when it IS.
Lishy Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Because you're trying to say it's not ME, when it IS. So why didn't you just say that? Why get so defensive? You really need to work on your communication and stop throwing such tantrums!
Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Actually, it's not. Sorry to burst your bubble, Lishy. Now please, if you're down for negativity, STAY OUT OF MY THREADS. Thanks. Well she did say this Lishy, I think we just missed it. But, just stating that fact and giving that information is enough without the other comments. Those sounded defensive.
sfsassy Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I did. I got this back: Lol. I've done that, Whe I'm embarressed, scared. lol.
sfsassy Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Because you're trying to say it's not ME, when it IS. I was wondering if that was you. Beautiful. Don't know why you have issues getting guys, lol.
dropdeadlegs Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Drunk texting/calling.... I've done it, and I've been the recipient. I can't say there was any particular meaning behind any of it. I have acted on true feelings and said things I didn't have the courage to say sober. I have also been embarrassed by those actions. I can't say that I didn't recall what I had said. Yes, alcohol lowers inhibitions, but it also can intensify feelings that aren't so altruistic. Loneliness (helped by the thought that somebody cares, or is interested) can have a play in things. Drunk actions can feed ones ego in that way and have no other purpose than that. I would let this go, and if it happens again state that if he would like to speak when he is sober that you would be happy to do so. In other words, don't give him another thought unless he proves worthy of your thoughts. Whatever you do, do NOT feel bad about showing interest or enjoyment in his flirtiness. There is no crime nor shame in that. Sleep well knowing that you did nothing wrong or offensive. BTW, your avi is beautiful!
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