Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Do you think people are genuinely honest when they drunk-communicate? In other words, can you trust the substance of someone's complimentary/flirty drunk comments/calls/texts when they're made under circumstances which have nothing to do with a booty call? Is "in vino veritas" true?
jerbear Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Not always. Alcohol lowers one's inhibitions that they otherwise will not show. When I am drunk I can do some dumbass things that have nothing to do with liking someone. I've called up friends, strangers, and others when life was so carefree.
Angel1111 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I would believe it if they said something mean and nasty, so I guess I'd have to believe it if they say something nice, too.
Chinook Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 As Jerbear says, alcohol lowers inhibitions - so although the person who is drunk may mean what they say at that moment, they may not always have intended it to come out. If you think they wouldn't have said it sober, I'd let it slide.
Art_Critic Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I think they get lonely.. Drinking lowers the inhibitions and can make you feel alone.. Texting relieves the lonely feeling.. That is why many times times they just say.. "I'm sorry.. I was drunk ".. " I didn't mean what I texted "
jerbear Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 CaliGuy has been drinking again? :lmao::lmao: So wrong....
xpaperxcutx Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 CaliGuy has been drinking again? CaliGuy's an alcoholic? No wonder he's grouchy sometimes. Anyways back to topic... When I'm drunk I tend to be more flirty with the person I have a crush on, but then I knew at the time what I was saying because I wanted to say it. It just the alcohol made the words easier to come out.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 Not always. Alcohol lowers one's inhibitions that they otherwise will not show. When I am drunk I can do some dumbass things that have nothing to do with liking someone. I've called up friends, strangers, and others when life was so carefree. I hear you. I make drunk calls too. But what I'm talking about involves comments that directly state romantic interest, almost to the extent of saying, "I really like you and want us to be together.". Can you take such drunk comments seriously? I don't mean in the most literal sense, but at least to the extent of understanding that at the very least they are interested vs. not? I ask this generally because it's happened to me a few times in my dating life, but also out of specific curiosity due to a new situation. (Please forgive my typos; I'm writing this from my BB as I get a pedicure.)
sfsassy Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 As Jerbear says, alcohol lowers inhibitions - so although the person who is drunk may mean what they say at that moment, they may not always have intended it to come out. If you think they wouldn't have said it sober, I'd let it slide. Yes. After my last breakup I drunk everything, lol. (accept actually going to his house, lol. Not my best moment!) Annyway, I meant everything I said to him, but wouldn't have said it if I had been sober. (I said other lame things while sober!) Two lessons I learned. Don't do anything while drunk, and wait two hours before sending emails of an argumenntative natiure! Good times, NOT!
sfsassy Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I hear you. I make drunk calls too. But what I'm talking about involves comments that directly state romantic interest, almost to the extent of saying, "I really like you and want us to be together.". Can you take such drunk comments seriously? I don't mean in the most literal sense, but at least to the extent of understanding that at the very least they are interested vs. not? I ask this generally because it's happened to me a few times in my dating life, but also out of specific curiosity due to a new situation. (Please forgive my typos; I'm writing this from my BB as I get a pedicure.) Yes, they like you. It is like the romantic version of the Mel Gibson incident. Now he probaably wouldn't have said those hurtful comments if he was sober, but he probably still thought them at some level.
johan Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I think if you want to find out who someone really is, the best way is to find their posts on an anonymous message board. People tend to reveal their true nature in that environment, and you can tell what kind of person they are by whether they treat others with kindness when the chips are down. This is a much more certain way of finding out what they really think. Drunk dialing may lower inhibitions, but it also clouds judgment. So the only time you should take the word of a drunk person as evidence of his/her real feelings is if you expect them to be drunk all the time they are with you.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 Drunk dialing may lower inhibitions, but it also clouds judgment. So the only time you should take the word of a drunk person as evidence of his/her real feelings is if you expect them to be drunk all the time they are with you. Ugh. Good point. That would be horrible...
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 maybe the drunkee sees you as better looking in their mind while drunk! Like beer goggles for the mind! In real life, maybe he doesn't find you that attractive!
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 maybe the drunkee sees you as better looking in their mind while drunk! Like beer goggles for the mind! In real life, maybe he doesn't find you that attractive! That's so mean Arise
Author Star Gazer Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 maybe the drunkee sees you as better looking in their mind while drunk! Like beer goggles for the mind! In real life, maybe he doesn't find you that attractive! That's a possibility, I suppose. I guess there's no way to know either way. To me that means I shouldn't take anything anyone says while drunk seriously (unless it's mean, as then I'd never forget it).
grogster Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Do you think people are genuinely honest when they drunk-communicate? In other words, can you trust the substance of someone's complimentary/flirty drunk comments/calls/texts when they're made under circumstances which have nothing to do with a booty call? Is "in vino veritas" true? I would infer some romantic/sexual/erotic interest. Alcohol lowers the fear of rejection. The sauce does not make one like X as opposed to Y. The feelings are there, no matter how sodden. If you spurn the guy's pickled "feelers" he can always claim the suds made him do it. No harm, no foul. Beer bravery.
Lishy Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 It could be that he needed the drink to be able to say how he felt? It depends how you know him and your history Can't you ask him?
woods321 Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 When I was 22 I dated a girl who would always break up with me. Then she would get drunk and call, tell me how much she misses me, loves me etc. But the following day she would not have those same sentiments when I eagerly called her. So in my opinion, maybe those people are selfish? They get drunk, call, act loving to feel good at that moment, but don't realize it completely screwed you up for the next week.
jerbear Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I hear you. I make drunk calls too. But what I'm talking about involves comments that directly state romantic interest, almost to the extent of saying, "I really like you and want us to be together.". Can you take such drunk comments seriously? I don't mean in the most literal sense, but at least to the extent of understanding that at the very least they are interested vs. not? I ask this generally because it's happened to me a few times in my dating life, but also out of specific curiosity due to a new situation. (Please forgive my typos; I'm writing this from my BB as I get a pedicure.) Nice feat. Anyway, I would not take drunk comments seriously. Whenever I get them, I just say XYZ, call me tomorrow or have your officer call me to bail you out. I've drunk called those gals I'm interested in and those that I want to "pump and dump". The latter group, well it was more for fun and being stupid. I remember what I've done when I'm drunk and there were times, I just do not know why I did what I did.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Nice feat. Anyway, I would not take drunk comments seriously. Whenever I get them, I just say XYZ, call me tomorrow or have your officer call me to bail you out. I've drunk called those gals I'm interested in and those that I want to "pump and dump". The latter group, well it was more for fun and being stupid. I remember what I've done when I'm drunk and there were times, I just do not know why I did what I did. Oh god Jerbear, so that's what you guys call it...
Author Star Gazer Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 I would infer some romantic/sexual/erotic interest. Alcohol lowers the fear of rejection. The sauce does not make one like X as opposed to Y. The feelings are there, no matter how sodden. If you spurn the guy's pickled "feelers" he can always claim the suds made him do it. No harm, no foul. Beer bravery. Well, I've responded in kind when he's made these comments, but to a lesser degree. A dangling carrot, perhaps. The following day, he'll still be in contact, but seems withdrawn. May even make a joke about having drunk texted me. It's quite confusing.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Well, I've responded in kind when he's made these comments, but to a lesser degree. A dangling carrot, perhaps. The following day, he'll still be in contact, but seems withdrawn. May even make a joke about having drunk texted me. It's quite confusing. If what he said was explicit or one that had put him on the spotlight, I doubt he will bring it up. Unless you bring it up first. But wouldn't that be awkward?
jerbear Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Oh god Jerbear, so that's what you guys call it... It is a good way to find out if she likes you. At least we get a response. I refer to that phrase as reference to pumping up their ego and them letting them hang. Yes, I admit I've done "pump and dump" before and it is not nice.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 If what he said was explicit or one that had put him on the spotlight, I doubt he will bring it up. Unless you bring it up first. But wouldn't that be awkward? Well, for example... He did this last night, sending REALLY flirty, complimentary texts (which I quite enjoyed ). I responded by basically telling him I felt the same way. This morning, he sent a message basically apologizing for drunk texting. In a way, it seems like he's taking back what he said. So now I feel a bit silly. Ugh. I analyze too much. I'll just wait for him to say these sorts of things while sober, if ever.
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