amythan Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Hi! I am a bit confused with this guy and i would need some advise about how to proceed. He is a coworker. We use to work together in a very stressful environment so we got close pretty fast. He is younger than me and he is in his late twenties. Kind of a player and not a commitment person. We are not close friends but we really appreciate each other. I do not thing he is a long term relationship material and at this point of my life i do not care. I like him but i do not think either i am going to fall for him. We went out with friends some time ago and after lots of flirting we kissed and he freaked out saying 'this is impossible'. We never talked about this night and we continued as if nothing happened. But we cannot deny we like each other. We went out again two more times and we act as if we were together. Yesterday we went to a festival with two more friends and it was so weird ! All night long hand in hand, cuddling, dancing .. everybody thinks we are together because it is so obvious something is going on between us .. But he didn't even try to kiss me ! My question is, why is he acting this way ? it seems he is not interested in go further and he is not asking me proper dates. Just hung out with friends, lots of fun, act as we were together but noting else. I do not mean that he is not showing any interest because he is and if i didn't like someone it would never be so touchy, caring and flirty .. What should i do ? Thank you for read this and for your responses!
whichwayisup Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 He more than likely wants to have sex, no strings attached. Anyway, if you are very curious, why not ask him? Be upfront and honest, ask him what the deal is with all the cuddling and holding hands..
xpaperxcutx Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 He seems to enjoy being the cuddling and hand holding. But from his reaction he doesn't want it to be more than platonic. Do you like him? There is a mutual attraction but most likely he won't want to pursue any further.
Author amythan Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 Yeah i think he does not want to go further. There are different possible reasons .. we work in a company with a clear policy regarding dating and moreover we work in the same team and i am senior to him. Also it could be he is just not interested. But what confuses me is that this limit situation is insane, as dangerous as dating and difficult to understand if there is not mutual attraction. I am doing it because i would go further (even if further does not mean perhaps bf) but i do not understant what he wants !!
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