Peter_pan Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 basically i am having to choose a new university to go to. and every-time i start looking for one it reminds me of when me and the ex used to be looking for somewhere to go and i feel panic and feel like im all alone. (we did choose one, i followed her and it was ok, the uni was a bit run down and she was at a different campus, things went ok, we didnt meet anyone new at uni so thought we had "made" it.... but then she left me for a new guy she met at work. she then bought a house and i moved out of our flat and went into student halls) now i am back down south living at my parents. everyone i know (family friends) recommends i go to a local uni, or one thats down south at least, and to be honest i have not heard from her in over 4 months or more so why should i go back up to scotland? i have no family up there or near by (her family where like a family to me, which is now gone). if i go back up to the uni which i was at, it will just bring back memories, and then of course i may even bump into her from time to time, or see her with some other guy. i am wanting to start a new fresh life for myself, but i dont know what i want to study or where to study, its all a big head ache. i was looking at portsmouth uni which was the one I was originally going to go to. but it brings up memories of when we went to view it (me and the ex) and i feel like a part of me will be longing for her to have come to this uni with me and things would be different . we where all set on going there but she changed her mind in the last minute and i didnt want to lose her so went to live in scotland with her. we got a flat together and then i decided to go to the same uni as her, as there was a course which looked decent. (wasnt that great though) ugh. help, i also feel like i am to old for uni (just turned 21) and by the time i come out i'll be reallly old.
quankanne Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 you can never be too old to pursue your education. My daddy graduated with a BFA in 1992, and he was 63 years old! I remember him taking classes here and there at area junior colleges, then transferring to UIW. It was harder for him because he still had a wife AND me to support (I was in college myself), but he did it. At 21, your life is very much wide open. as cold as this will sound, *any*thing you do will remind you of your ex, so you ought to look at what interests you the most and pursue it anyway. She's a big part of your life, but she's not your life, you know? Don't let her ghost stand in the way of your success or your future happiness ...
Angel1111 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 You're going to really feel too old for college when you get married and have kids and still wishing you had gotten your degree because life is a huge struggle. But you won't be able to do it because you'll be too busy working your butt off trying to survive. Don't go down that difficult road. 21 is not too old for anything - except for diapers. You're probably going to have memories no matter what you do. It's the repeated pattern of your day-to-day life that will change your memories.
Nemo Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 why should i go back up to scotland? I hope you don't become so desperate that you need to consider it as an option. I suppose it's better than nothing, but not by mooch. , but i dont know what i want to study or where to study,Focus on the what, and then do the where. You are making the decisions for yourself, now, and that should be exciting. , i also feel like i am to old for uni (just turned 21)Yes, that is a big problem. The students will all mistake you for a professor, and it will become most annoying. If the girls ask you what you teach, then tell them "advanced sexual techniques." Tell them, if they are interested, to read your latest book, "Why every woman is multi-orgasmic."
Author Peter_pan Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 ok well you made me feel younger at least why do i feel desperate enough that i should go back up there. something in me wants her back and to work things out ? and if i dont something feels missing. its like my mind wont give up on this battle. i cant accept that she didnt want me. it feels like my life has been flipped upside down and i could have prevented it if i acted differently
Nemo Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 something feels missing. It's probably still in your pants. Rummage around in there, and it should turn up.
BrownBear Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Dude, youre not to old for uni - most students here in the UK go on a gap year or two before moving onto higher education.......I know I did! I was also 21 when I started and yes like you I was concerned about my age, but as soon as I arrived on campus I realized I had nothing to worry about. In terms of what uni - definitely come down to the south coast and if Portsmouth has too many memories attached, then just move further down to Brighton - It has two uni's (Brighton & Sussex) and is just the most amazing city ever. Check it out!
Author Peter_pan Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 portsmouth dosnt have to many memories its just in my head i will remember walking here and there with her and how i wish we had both come here. yeah brighton sounds pretty good from what i hear
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