mike5770 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Well my main coping mechanism with my lovecrush that I yap to you people here from time to time just got crushed on Friday! I found out from my friends that of course she just got engaged to the guy who "respected the ring" when my lovecrush was engaged to her last fioncee last year. I of course took the high road and although I flirted with her at the bar I never crossed the line or asked her out because I was always told it was pathetic to try to start a relationship with someone already engaged and living with someone. So the next thing I know the "respect the ring" man who was just being kind shows up arm and arm with her when I thought she would be single after breaking up with her first fioncee. So much for trying to do things the right way the spot of new man was already interviewed for and the vacancy filled before the breakup ever happened new applicants need not apply! I really can't blame the guy as he is swept up in her beauty and intoxicated like i was. Anyway my coping mechanismwas well he was the rebound guy and she will break up with him yaada yaada yaada and I will be with her....yea right this woman never comes up for air! I was doing great if u notice my loveshack visits have gone down and then i saw them together and had that knife in my stomach feeling again all night friday night...this girl always gets to me. I know rationally I was right for doing what i did: this woman has a long track record with men and they all end badly and i saw up close the way she treated her last fioncee up close when he was getting his walking papers...but realistically if she showed up at the bar and flirted with me next friday I would be sucked in again hook line and sinker! She was a very positive force in my life i lost 100pounds and still work out every day because of her and my business has taken off because i love life again so I am still grateful to her for giving me a life jolt...but I still love her!
quankanne Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 the spot of new man was already interviewed for and the vacancy filled before the breakup ever happened new applicants need not apply! … this woman has a long track record with men and they all end badly and i saw up close the way she treated her last fiancé up close when he was getting his walking papers. as much as you feel you love this woman, what you've posted is a HUGE red flag about her personality. Would you really want to be with someone who respected her "fiancé" so little that she had the next sucker lined up? sounds like the kind of woman who *needs* a man in her life, not because he brings something to her life, but because she's afraid of being alone, and that's bad news, IMO. I know you're hurting, because those feelings for her are incredibly real. However, focus on the thought that she might not be "all that," and that there was a very real possibility she would have treated you as badly as she did the other guy if y'all had hooked up. mikey, you deserve better than that! And the woman who will give you the kind of love and respect you should have is out there, just waiting to meet you.
Author mike5770 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 Thank you for the response. I feel much better today and I realize how absurd that relationship would have been. How could I ever trust someone I am going to marry knowing she cheated on her last fiance and was divorced before that. Hey could live happily ever after but looks like a recipe for disaster.
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