gordon_gc Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Hi, I have been out of the dating scene for a few years now (3 years) after a fairly bad breakup...on my side at least. In the meantime, I have mainly been having one night stands...a fair amount of them ! Lately, I have been trying to get back to dating girls. The feeling is great to meet, discover someone, ect... but the after-taste is really weird. I feel a sort of dependence to the person I'm dating...a great lack of confidence on my side and a lack of trust toward the other person. Ultimately, it affects my mood and I can honestly say I'm really crancky. It really feels like dating has awaken old demons I have been avoiding these last few years with ONS. Any advices ? Is there a post about going back to dating ? Any personal experience from others ? Cheers
Lishy Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I think you may benefit from some councelling. You obviously have old wounds that have been re-opened, when you have been in a damaging relationship then the wounds remain we just find ways to mask over them. I have this same problem I find that anything my boyfriend does that is similar to my ex I freak out - I mean really freak and want to end it etc I find it so hard to trust but have found a great person to talk to who gets it all into perspective to me I left my ex nearly 4 years ago but he still remains to be a huge issue in my life and my future I hate him and I hate how he has made me!
Author gordon_gc Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 But it's been 3 years...I don't even think of her anymore. I just don't get it.
Lishy Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I dont think about my ex either but I do think about the damage he done to me!
xpaperxcutx Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I dont think about my ex either but I do think about the damage he done to me! That's so true.....
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