emotions

[nab0610]

i'm not really sure where exactly i'm going with this, but if anyone wants to throw in an opinion or offer some advice that would be awesome

 

i seem to have alot of trouble in telling woman my emotions and the way i feel...however i feel like i'm very in touch with my emotions and the way i feel...i seem to be inherently good at expressing them in relation to other things though events, tv shows, movies, other ppl...

 

i also tend to act properly in situations however speaking them i tend to screw things up or say something thats a little awkward...same thing with like texting woman

 

is that i'm just bad at it and need more practice or is there something else that im missing

[KinAZ]

You know, I can relate. I think my thing is that because I'm such a talker, and I can always understand how something may be relevant, I often forget to check for appropriateness. I'm the girl who would say "Although you act like a jackass half the time, I'm madly in love with you" and mean it. Maybe I put my thoughts into words better than my feelings, I guess? Ironically, since trying to make a point is usually more important to me, I tend to overlook the emotional value (such as a situation where I might mention some other guy).

 

I won't say that I'm not as sensitive as most people, but rather that I'm more sensitive about other things. So, since I can't relate in that same way (unless I know the other person's sensitive areas), I might hurt feelings and egos without meaning to.

 

It took a while for me to realize that, with one of my exes, I was always telling him what I THOUGHT when he was asking me how I felt about him. I think I may have vulnerability issues that I didn't notice before?

 

The other problem that I've found is balancing the two correctly. The ex I mentioned above... what I felt and what I thought were at times on opposite ends of the totem pole. It's a hard balancing act for me because telling one part might also give the wrong message. "I like you a lot, but I want to take things slowly." Depending on the other person's emotions and thoughts, that could be taken a few different ways. The problem is, people will see what they want to see when emotions are involved, even if you go through the pain of being ultra-specific. "I don't know why I like you so much." "I don't know whether to take that as a compliment or an insult?" It's not that I'm incapable of wording things delicately, it's just that if I don't realize something may be taken the wrong way, I may not be as careful as I could have been.

 

I think it's something that you might get better at with practice, it's just that not everyone is the same. And honestly, I would feel a bit like a politician if I couldn't speak freely. While I try to remain cognizant, I've noticed as well that when the other person isn't upfront or clear about their own feelings, it just makes it easier for me to hurt them without realizing it.