silverbunny Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 so my bf (now ex and of 1.5 years) decided to break up with me a while ago, almost 2 months now. he said really the only reason he was breaking up with me is because i wasn't a girlfriend anymore, but instead just a friend. we still talk pretty casually and get along fine, pretty good actually. but im thinking its something else. see we were never the sex-doing type. personally, i wanted to because i thought it would pull us closer. but i was VERY afraid of what he'd say because he can be EXTREMELY sensitive about things like that. we joked about it just a few times a few months ago. but i don't know if it was such a joke now... so... methinks it may be this. and again, i can be TOTALLY wrong and it's not. but if it is, i want to know. because i wanted to before and i still would if we'd get back together. however, im told that me leaving town for college is part of the reason we broke up. he said he can't do a LDR but really... its not. im going to a town less than 2.5 hours away and i'd come back every other or every week. plus im thinking about transferring to a different college next fall to a closer town. he was kinda a prick and didn't even talk to me about working college out and i feel really left out because 99% of my friends are. it hurts to see my friends together with their bfs (or gfs) and im like "aw why can't that be me?" and he didn't even really tell me much about why im "just a friend" now. when i try to ask, he says i already asked him that and "i just don't listen"... however, if i ask then i must not know. i don't know. he's difficult to deal with sometimes. but what guy doesn't think they're always right and has to win every challenge (or break up) successfully. im willing to put some effort into changing my attitude about myself and our sexual life. i admit i have a short temper and was super, extremely embarrassed to bring up sex or anything remotely related to sex around him. that's probably my downfall. plus i was in a bad... acquaintance (we'll leave it at that) with someone before my current bf/ex. i feel that affected me but im COMPLETELY 100% willing to put that behind me once and for all and do what i want to do in a relationship and not let some bad memories get to me. i really wish i would have done this sooner but... i just couldn't. now i realize it probably is what drove me to be just a friend... because we never did anything sexually for 1.5 years. and he probably wanted to. so here i am... out on a limb asking you if i should bring this up to him sometime. or is it too late and i should just completely forget about getting back together and just be lucky we have such a good friendship? i really love him and would do anything to get him back. he was so good to me and i never repaid him for that.
Author silverbunny Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 hmm as i look at forum topics i think i may have put this in the wrong discussion... should i put this in the "sexual" discussion? because thats kinda what its about... but i guess its mostly about breaking up and a reason why... idk you tell me. help if you can but if you think its in the wrong place lemme know.
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