redhound13 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 id say its childish since im about to turn 20, so saying i was in "love" might be nieve and blind. but anyway. Ive had been with this girl for about 3 years. Ive been nothing but loyalty, but hers seemed to dwindle on a monthly schedule. She went on a vacation to stay with her dad in the beginning of our relationship for 2 months. Cheated on me with a guy (not her doing, he made a move on her) but she didnt stop him (retorical statement right). When she came back she lied about it and said she was raped. so obviously i was crushed, and vowed id do nothing less but to protect her and keep her safe. Well, that went sour about 8 months later. We broke up multiple times, due to the fact that she couldnt flirt with certain guys in her life. She'd break up with me to see other people, then expect me to be waiting for her when she was done. And i was, until i found out. I recently told her I was done with her lies, manipulations, and for treating me like a doormat. She came forth and admitted all the things she had done wrong, and begged me to forgive her. I could go on about the other things..but it'd make this a short story. i told her i couldnt forgive her, not now, and i didnt know when. Long story short, were still friends, been broken up for about 2 months now. Trying to be the man im suppose to be i guess. i know im stupid and blind, i changed my life to be with her, and ruined it since its been at a halt to make her happy for 3 long years. Why cant i just push her out of my heart. At times i hate her, then i just want to call and tell her i still love her and want her back, but i know i cant. Some guidence would be helpfull.
JustinWolf Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I think you should just lay back and let her go. You need to move on, that girl hurted you a lot. You see a relationship should be based on trust and honnesty. She came out with all the truth, at the end?!!? What's up with that? She should've been honnest since the beginning. She does not deserve you even talking to her. It's going to hurt you too but go NC and move on, happy and strong. In the end, it'll make you better. Plus, the fact you are still in contact makes you still want to be with her. Go NC. With time, your heart will feel better and someone better may come hopping along. You're young, go wild.
wingk1314 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 I'm going through something similar atm though obviously my case isn't as bad as yours. I understand how you feel though. You'll feel that they don't appreciate you but then you just can't help but still love them. It's a hard thing to do and I'm trying to stick with my words after breaking up with her too. There's heaps of times when I really want to just call and say that i miss/love her still, but a part of me is afraid of being disappointed again. All I can say is, if you don't know what you really want to do, then don't do anything until you do. I'd say give yourself some time to calm down and think clearly before making any decisions.
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