Inflikted Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 This is probably going to be a long post, but I could really some talking to. First, let me start with some backstory. I'm currently 19, soon to be 20. When I was just a little kid, I instantly fell for a girl I went to school with. Yeah, it probably started as an innocent little crush, but I really believe I eventually came to be in love with her. I was extremely shy to her, though, so she never knew anything until my friends hinted around to her a little the last year we were in school together. This led to her and I having some kind of "cute" moments together, but after that year, I always kicked myself for not trying harder with her. I was broken hearted for a while after that... Eventually, though, I put it in the back of my mind. I told myself that if it were "meant to be", fate would "bring her back in my life some day". I tried to broaden my horizons through high school, and meet new girls, but I just wasn't feeling it like I was with this original girl. It's kind of sad, because to this day, I've never met a girl that makes me feel the same way as she did. Well, fast forward to early this year. By dumb luck, I stumbled on her MySpace after I found out she was going to the college I was very interested in going to. I got back in touch with her, and she seemed almost unusually happy and excited to hear from me. We caught up a little bit, although, I had to keep it fairly light and casual because, at the time, she had a fairly serious boyfriend, and I didn't want to get involved in that. Her and I talked about college, a little; I made mention about considering going to the same school as her, and she even said she'd be "happy to show me around there, and help me get comfortable and settle in" (although, my college plans have since changed, but she's not aware of that yet). As I got to learn a little more about the kind of person she is now, I could tell my feelings were coming back for her. About a month ago, her and her boyfriend split up. This felt like my "second chance" with her, so I was trying to figure out what my next move should be. Let me clear something up, though; my idea was NOT to tell her I've been in love with her all this time, and for her to tell me she's been in love with me, too, and for us to live happily ever after, etc. etc. I've been trying really hard to keep my "real" feelings for her in check, and I think I've done a good job of doing so. My mindset here was to come into this starting completely fresh, and try to get something going from there. So, about two weeks ago, I finally took the plunge, and casually messaged her about meeting up some time soon to catch up in person, and whatnot. Sadly, she hasn't responded, yet... I know for a fact she's gotten and read the message, though... So it appears she's just going to not respond at all. :/ I just... I don't get it. I don't understand why she would go from being so happy to hear from me, telling me she'd be happy to help me settle in if I was going to the same college as her, etc., then blow me off when I ask her about meeting up. It's not even like I made it sound like a date... It doesn't make any sense to me. I don't know what to do, here... I know the simplest answer to give me is "Forget about her, move on", but that's a LOT easier said than done. Especially considering I've been carrying these feelings for her for nearly 14-15 years, even if they have been dormant in the back of my mind for about half that. I'm just not satisfied with things ending this way with her. Even if there's nothing I can do about this NOW, do you think this could still be salvaged somewhere in the future? Like, in a few years, if I haven't found some one new, is there any chance I could revisit this? Or are things too far gone, at this point, for anything to ever happen, now OR in the future?
JustinWolf Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 One thing I learned is the fact that you never know. Three simple words. You never know. Live your life for the moment and enjoy life and what it has to offer you. Yes, it's hard to move on but you can do it. Also, maybe she isn't ready to see you. When she saw the text, I think she may have realised why you wanted to see her. Plus she just got out of a relationship. Send another text, if you want. Last chance, if she doesn't reply. Move on.
Author Inflikted Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 But what should I say in this next message?
JustinWolf Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 That's up to you but you don't want to sound needy or desperate. Otherwise you could just say "hey, how r u?" see if she replies to that.
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