She obviously is looking forward to more than movies and dinner

[muse82]

Hi

 

Thought this would be the right forum for this problem of mine..

 

Last year i met this girl online and we would talk on the phone every night and se each other on webcam.This lasted about a month i think and then she began to get cold feet about us meeting because the last guy she met online was a real wacko(actually my x's recent bf)

I then began to talk to another girl and we ended up dating.This lasted about a week and i broke it off with her.

 

Then 3 weeks ago the first girl started writing me on msn and we began to talk again. She has asked me to come visit her next month for a weekend.

Theres just a little problem. She has a BF that she has had for 7 months.Its not really going that well she says and she is thinking about breaking up with him.

She told me that when i come visit we would sleep in the same bed because she didnt have any madrases.

She obviously is looking forward to more than movies and dinner.

 

I have never been in this kind of situation before, it seems as if she wants to se if im better than her bf and if not then she wont do anything with me. Dunno would love some input.

[Green]

she doesn't have madrases? I didn't know what that meant. So if I understand you corectly your scared by the way she is aproaching you so sexualy saying she will spend the night. I would be nervous too, but if you pass this up you may regret it. If your really hot for her I say just do it.

[Angel1111]

Tell her that when she breaks up with her bf to let you know and you'll come visit her then. Thinking about breaking up with someone and actually doing it are two different things. Don't get involved with anyone who is already involved with someone else - bf, husband, fiance, whatever. It doesn't matter if she's miserable with him or not, she's still with him right now, so it's still a relationship. That's all you need to know.

 

As far as parking yourself at her place and sleeping in the same bed with her, the truth is you don't know one thing about this girl in reality and you could be potentially trapping yourself in a situation that you would rather not be in. I think this has got all the potential of turning into a huge mistake.

[Enema]

I agree with Angel, until she breaks up with her boyfriend you shouldn't go visit her.

 

Don't be that guy.

[muse82]

she doesn't have madrases? I didn't know what that meant. So if I understand you corectly your scared by the way she is aproaching you so sexualy saying she will spend the night. I would be nervous too, but if you pass this up you may regret it. If your really hot for her I say just do it.

 

I think its spelled "Matresses" but not sure.She has no ekstra bed or couch for me to sleep on :-)

 

Tell her that when she breaks up with her bf to let you know and you'll come visit her then. Thinking about breaking up with someone and actually doing it are two different things. Don't get involved with anyone who is already involved with someone else - bf, husband, fiance, whatever. It doesn't matter if she's miserable with him or not, she's still with him right now, so it's still a relationship. That's all you need to know.

 

As far as parking yourself at her place and sleeping in the same bed with her, the truth is you don't know one thing about this girl in reality and you could be potentially trapping yourself in a situation that you would rather not be in. I think this has got all the potential of turning into a huge mistake.

 

I have been thinking the same thing and i dont really wanna be that other guy because i know how it feels to be cheated on.

 

She wrote me today saying that she has some time away from her BF and thats good.She also told me that she is planning on breaking up with him the next time she sees him.

And next time she sees him will be after i visit her.So i have a feeling that she wants to test the water to see if im any good and then decide.I just dont wanna be a part of that and if im at all interesting then she would have no problem droping her guy because from what she tells me he is very hurtful and frankly an idiot.

 

And further more i am really begining to hate hearing about all this crap about her bf saying this and saying that.

 

Think ill tell her to break up with him or i wont come visit her.I think when i tell her that then she will say things like oh i wasnt planning on us doing anything just being friends.

 

Thanks for all your replies :-D

[Angel1111]

I think its spelled "Matresses" but not sure.She has no ekstra bed or couch for me to sleep on :-)

 

 

 

I have been thinking the same thing and i dont really wanna be that other guy because i know how it feels to be cheated on.

 

She wrote me today saying that she has some time away from her BF and thats good.She also told me that she is planning on breaking up with him the next time she sees him.

And next time she sees him will be after i visit her.So i have a feeling that she wants to test the water to see if im any good and then decide.I just dont wanna be a part of that and if im at all interesting then she would have no problem droping her guy because from what she tells me he is very hurtful and frankly an idiot.

 

And further more i am really begining to hate hearing about all this crap about her bf saying this and saying that.

 

Think ill tell her to break up with him or i wont come visit her.I think when i tell her that then she will say things like oh i wasnt planning on us doing anything just being friends.

 

Thanks for all your replies :-D

 

Breaking up with her bf should have nothing to do with you one way or another. If she's going to break up with him, then that's what she needs to do. If she's going to break up with him after she has another guy on the hook, then that's pretty sad. And the fact that she plans to sleep with you before she even knows you is just disgutsing. Sorry, this woman sounds like trash.

[muse82]

Breaking up with her bf should have nothing to do with you one way or another. If she's going to break up with him, then that's what she needs to do. If she's going to break up with him after she has another guy on the hook, then that's pretty sad. And the fact that she plans to sleep with you before she even knows you is just disgutsing. Sorry, this woman sounds like trash.

 

Your absolutely right.She is trash and i cant figure her out. Think i am gonna cancel everything with her and look for a real woman without all this game playing and crap. Thanks for replying. Dont know what i would do without you guys from loveshack:)