rodders1976 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 I would have been married 2 years in september when my wife dropped a bombshell on me last week. I feel so stupid that i never saw this coming, she came home a little drunk to tell me that she did not love me anymore as her husband!!!!!! She said that she could not help her feelings in that she had tried to pretend that everything was fine but in the last 3 months she has come to love me like a friend. I was so shocked because in my mind we were working a little bit harder in our careers to try prepare to have a baby next year.I feel so useless and pathetic becasue i begged her to give us a chance for her to tell me flat out that she knows how she feels and she cannot help it. I have never felt as low i could not sleep while she very happily fell asleep after destroying my soul.The next morning she woke to me asking what happened and she proceeded to confess that she has been cheating on me with her boss. Still i begged for her to give us a chance and i did not cover myself in glory when i deleted her bosses number from her mobile which i hid. I have trying to think back on what happened and what did i do, why did i not see the signs so i could have saved our marriage. She has moved out now proberly to her bosses place and still can't believe that a week was all it took.
lkjh Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 It may not seem like it but your better off than being with someone who would cheat after only two years of M
Tripper Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Whoa, R, hang on a sec... It's not what you did or didn't do... It's what she did.. If she felt that there were probs in the M or she wasn't happy then she should have told you... not screwed around with her boss... Don't beat yourself up and don't let her make herself the victim. And consider yourself lucky that you didn't spend the next 10 years of your life in a M where your W may have been screwing around on you.
Ronni_W Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 I have trying to think back on what happened and what did i do, why did i not see the signs so i could have saved our marriage. ...still can't believe that a week was all it took. I agree with Tripper -- there is no 'blindness' or lack on your part. Do not take on responsibility that actually lies with her. The other thing is that for her, it was, of course, much longer than a week. At least 3 months, according to her...and perhaps she even had subconscious doubts about her marital relationship prior to that. But she was aware of it 3 months ago, and that is when SHE ought to have approached you, for there to have been an opportunity to mutually resolve any resolvable issues. (In any case, you would not be able to save a relationship all by yourself.) I'm sorry that you are going through this -- sending hugs and good vibes.
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