Deadack Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Hey all. Im new to this site as i dont normally do this kind of thing but i have no where left to turn to. Heres the situation. I've been dating this girl now for about 4-5 weeks ,although this doesnt seem long to most people, she one of those persons that you know are special and you know inside that youd like to do so much with. Anyway it had been going well but over the last week, she been a bit "different" like one min shes happy as anything, where kissing hugging ect and the next it is as if where a world apart. Then a day or 2 ago she tell tells me that she "doesnt know what she wants". But she assures me that its nothing major and she still likes me but everytime i try to ask questions about it she gets real hostile towards it and we end up in a stand off. WHAT DO I DO! is this one of those situations where you back off and give them space and let it play out or except a cruel reality that she may be a lost corse? Please help me. I probaly should mention the fact that just before we started going out, shed just come out of a relationship that had lasted over a year but it lacked "spirit" if that makes sence. I thought that she might have dwindling interests in the ex which i could understand that but i doubt that whats it is. She also mention the fact that she wasnt ready for a seroius relationhip just yet, but last time i checked seroius relationships take time to develop giving me the impression that maby she a little uneasy to the thought of another long relationship and thus to the long term commitment side of things but i dont know. Everytime i think about, which is all the time, i seem to find more questions then anwsers. Maby as she said im just worring and making a big deal out of nothing? PLEASE HELP ME BRING LIGHT TO THIS! :(
CommitmentPhobe Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 WALK Walk now, walk quickly. You're a rebound. Make a pre-emptive strike and save yourself the heartache. Unless you're bedding her in which case just enjoy that while it lasts and date other people. LMAO she's told you she doesn't want a serious relationship so don't try for one.
silvergirl Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 What do you mean when you say it's like you're in different worlds. How is she acting at this time?
Author Deadack Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 Well im not really a rebound cause we were sort of together before she had finished the last relationship. Her emoptions are all over the place to say the least. Like one min we happy talking laughing kissing ect ect ect the next, she hardly talking, you can instantly pick the change in her attitude like the emotion saying that she would rather be else where or that there a **** load on her mind at that very point and limits her interactions with me.
CommitmentPhobe Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Seriously I would get away from this girl as fast as you can. It sounds like you like the idea of her but the reality is she's a moody cow around you, and I do think you're a rebound. Doesn't sound like much fun to me.
silvergirl Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 If you were in this relationship before she ended the other one, and her moods are swinging the way you say they are, it sounds to me like she may be regretting or feeling ashamed of being with you, while she was with her last bf. She may be wanting to get back with him, or may already be back with him. Sounds to me like you need to move on.
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