xpaperxcutx Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 So after the falling out that six pack guy and I had the other day ( in regards to how selfish he had been to me being sick) I stayed home most of thursday bedridden because of my flu. Six pack guy by that morning had already texted me to ask whether I was awake or not, an implication that he probably wishes to chat online with me. Coupled with my fever and slight cold, I did not totally forget his attitude towards me, I tossed my phone back down on the table and went back to bed. Fast forward to around 3 in the afternoon I checked my inbox and I'd received another text from him. His exact words: " If we're not going to meet up, tell me now so I can make other plans." (We had made plans to spend Saturday together) So I wrote him back to make other plans then. His response: "I knew you were going to cancel. Goodbye!" At this point I'm annoyed, and I couldn't care anymore. But then he came with another text telling me he deleted me from his myspace. And to confirm that, he made sure to leave a message with the words goodbye in my myspace inbox. My only response: " I came down with the flu. You do what you want then" That's it, I deleted his number. Personally I thought that was that. I sabotaged it, he self prophesied me canceling on him. I lamented. But got over it. Over and done with right? But apparently this guy doesn't quit. He has deleted me from his friends and didn't make a single peep until just now of all hours of the day, he had to text me and ask " are we still on for tomorrow?" What the hell? What does he still want from me?
Elyssa Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 He is doing all this in an attempt to get a reaction out of you. He told you he deleted you from his myspace in an attempt to gain your attention back. A wake-up call of sorts. He probably figured if you cared about him, you'd probably try to win him back. Him asking if you're still on for tomorrow is a last-ditch effort. You don't seem too terribly concerned about the loss of him, so I'd just move on and let him fume on his own. He clearly cares, but his pride is too much. He should just come out and say how he feels instead of playing games. -E
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 He is doing all this in an attempt to get a reaction out of you. He told you he deleted you from his myspace in an attempt to gain your attention back. A wake-up call of sorts. He probably figured if you cared about him, you'd probably try to win him back. Him asking if you're still on for tomorrow is a last-ditch effort. You don't seem too terribly concerned about the loss of him, so I'd just move on and let him fume on his own. He clearly cares, but his pride is too much. He should just come out and say how he feels instead of playing games. -E It's not that I don't care, but I'm too sick to care. Clearly if he's a bit more understanding and tell me not to worry about it, I would've rescheduled.
george1122 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 He sounds like a jerk to me. He doesn't care about you but himself. You were sick, he didn't care. Don't you want to be wirth someone who cares for you. Makes you soup when you are sick and gives you company?
jadedone Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 He probably thought she was blowing him off. Considering her indecisiveness about him recently, he probably had reason to think she was just blowing him off. He was definitely trying to get a reaction, and probably an apology.
CommitmentPhobe Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 He wants the upper hand. He played hardball with you and now he's realised that isn't going to work so now he's desperately trying to scrape some power back. Both of you should be mature enough to realise that it's messed up between you and that's that.
silvergirl Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 He sounds like "stalker" material to me. I think you should just leave be. Let it all die down, I wouldn't contact him any further.
sid3 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 I don't think silvergirl is being melodramic. They guy got angry and disrespectful, then comes back with 'are we still on' he's obviously not quite right. He can't keep his emotions in check. Note there was no apology, or taking responsibility for his immature actions. Everyone can act like a d**k once in awhile. But clearly this guy is a douchebag. Hopefully he won't turn out to be a stalker and he'll take whatever dignity he has left and go hide in a corner somewhere. Too much time in the gym turned this guy into an emotional retard IMHO.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 He sounds like a jerk to me. He doesn't care about you but himself. You were sick, he didn't care. Don't you want to be wirth someone who cares for you. Makes you soup when you are sick and gives you company? The soup thing's a bit much... never dated anyone long enough to have that happen to me.... besides I don't want the guy to see me blowing my nose all the time... He probably thought she was blowing him off. Considering her indecisiveness about him recently, he probably had reason to think she was just blowing him off. He was definitely trying to get a reaction, and probably an apology. Jadedone yes I was indecisive but that only showed in my posts on here when I was having second thoughts. but even at that, I didn't cancel until he wrote me that text about making other plans. Apparently he had expected me to cancel, so the only thing I'm sorry about is that he wouldn't give me the benefit of the doubt. Yes I agree that he was trying to get a reaction out of me, but I've never had people play mind games with me and trying to manipulate a reaction out of me. That's why the only response that came was Annoyance and anger. He wants the upper hand. He played hardball with you and now he's realised that isn't going to work so now he's desperately trying to scrape some power back. Both of you should be mature enough to realise that it's messed up between you and that's that. Well I know I can be immature at times, but I would expect him to at least be a bit mature considering he's older. And what is it with the power play? I don't think silvergirl is being melodramic. They guy got angry and disrespectful, then comes back with 'are we still on' he's obviously not quite right. He can't keep his emotions in check. Note there was no apology, or taking responsibility for his immature actions. Everyone can act like a d**k once in awhile. But clearly this guy is a douchebag. Hopefully he won't turn out to be a stalker and he'll take whatever dignity he has left and go hide in a corner somewhere. Too much time in the gym turned this guy into an emotional retard IMHO. Well I don't really know. He hardly ever calls me, only texts me. So I can't really read him that well. Sometimes I wish that he could pick up the damn phone and have a heart to heart . And he's not a stalker, he doesn't know where I live, so I'm glad for that.
silvergirl Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 And he's not a stalker, he doesn't know where I live, so I'm glad for that. I didn't say he WAS a stalker, I said he sounds like stalker material, in other words, if things don't go his way he seems a little hissy.
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