ladydenise Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Ok, here goes...this is my first time posting, so be gentle! LOL I'm dating a guy who lives in NYC, so we don't get to see each other much. We are going to a concert in August, on a Thursday, so I asked him to take Friday off from work, so I don't have to take the train back home late and plus, we can have lots more fun together in the city. Well, I think I freaked him out! He said he doesn't take vacation days unless they are fully planned. I asked him this 2 months ago! I know he's anal, but this is ridiculous! I tried everything to convince him and he said he'd "think about it". Is this all a part of being anal? He said he'd get back to me because I have to tell my boss if I'm taking a vacation day. We talked Monday and he hasn't called of texted. Sooooooo...do you think I should I should call him or wait till he calls me? I'm really trying to wait it out. I'm getting very frustrated with him not letting me know. Suggestions? Part of me wants to see what's going on and part of me wants to see just how long he has the nerve to take.
sid3 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 wait. patience is a virtue:) if he is not wanting to take a day off to spend with you seeing as this is a somewhat special occasion, it's time to question what you mean to him IMHO
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Well, he's obviously not on the same page as you and you might be wasting your time!!! Find someone that really appreciates you hon! come on! Months in advance and he can't swing a day off?!?! Keep going out with him and the excuses will just get worse!!!
silvergirl Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Sounds to me like you may be an "extra" girl. If he takes vacation time, then his REAL girlfriend may find out about you.
CommitmentPhobe Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 he said he'd "think about it". I don't like the sound of that! It's difficult to get context though. How do you usually spend your time? Would this be the first "effort" he's had to make?
norajane Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 If I were you, I'd take the day off regardless of what he does. Then spend the night in the city, and enjoy your day off with or without him. If he turns out to be a schlubb, get a room in a hotel - there are lots of internet deals for last minute rooms - and spend Friday shopping or sight seeing or getting your hair done or strolling through Central Park or go to the Met or whatever you like to do. NYC is a wonderful place to visit - have fun! I realize you want to spend the night at his place and then enjoy the city with him the next day. But if he's not going to be that guy, then don't short-change yourself. And don't put your life on hold waiting for him to get off his ass and figure out how to have fun.
Author ladydenise Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 If I were you, I'd take the day off regardless of what he does. Then spend the night in the city, and enjoy your day off with or without him. If he turns out to be a schlubb, get a room in a hotel - there are lots of internet deals for last minute rooms - and spend Friday shopping or sight seeing or getting your hair done or strolling through Central Park or go to the Met or whatever you like to do. NYC is a wonderful place to visit - have fun! I realize you want to spend the night at his place and then enjoy the city with him the next day. But if he's not going to be that guy, then don't short-change yourself. And don't put your life on hold waiting for him to get off his ass and figure out how to have fun. Thanks everyone for trying to help. And thanks Norajane for a great idea. That sounds like something I would do. I guess I'm just feeling down at the moment. It's been 7 days and no word and I thought I meant something to him that he would let me know yes or no. Wow, I was stupid. So....should I still wait or give him a call? The more I wait, the madder I'm getting. This is getting downright rude!
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Thanks everyone for trying to help. And thanks Norajane for a great idea. That sounds like something I would do. I guess I'm just feeling down at the moment. It's been 7 days and no word and I thought I meant something to him that he would let me know yes or no. Wow, I was stupid. So....should I still wait or give him a call? The more I wait, the madder I'm getting. This is getting downright rude! 7 days? If he has any manners, he'd given you a reply after the first two days. Ditch him. Not worth it.
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