awesomeness43 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 sry... rant... just something i had to get off my chest. Im 19 and a student. I took the past year off to work and do real estate/loans so i have a substantial chunk saved up and still live a pretty nice lifestyle.Im about to go back to school come September. What worries me is that whatever i have, she has something nicer. I have Bmw m3, she has the new is350. I spend a small fortune on clothes, she buys valentino and lv purses like its nothing. I come from a comfortable-above average family but her parents are multi millionaires. The majority of her money comes from her parents paying for her school and the fact that she had a 4.6 gpa she received all the grants and scholarships and pocketed that money as well as her parents giving her 10-15k a semester for "living expenses". The majority of girls ive been with age 18-25 ive never felt that i didn't have more money than them or felt that i wasn't able to upgrade their lifestyle. Her family has a huge house/mansion and my house in comparison seems "cozy" when to alot of people it is considered very big. I've took her on numerous vacations ie ny,vegas, hawaii and i know shes not a gold digger because even though i dont want to she spends money on things during the trips that come out to quite a chunk as well. She has also buys expensive gifts for my birthday and what not. I really care about her and its not childish love or rushing in because ive been with alot of other girls and not once have i felt this way. We are so compatible and talking about our life together in the future. Im just scared that no matter how much i make or the things i buy for her arent going to be at the level that her family could provide for her. She has assured me numerous times that is not the case and that as long as shes with me money doesnt matter. She is in no means dumb, at a prestigious UC majoring in bio and intending on going to med school post grad. Basically its more of a pride thing and it really bothers me and sometimes i worry. What can i do or is it a big deal? How do you think she feels? SRY super long post.
Lucky_One Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I doubt it bothers her at all. You sound amazingly put together for a 19 year old. Don't let the stress of worrrying about this crap make you overlook the fact that you are so far ahead of most kids in terms of maturity and cash.
norajane Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 That is something to be concerned about. If she wants to continue spending as freely as she does now on her parents' money, and your combined incomes in the future won't even come close to supporting that, yes, it will be an issue. However, you are both young. I'm sorry to be the voice of doom here, but it's not likely you'll get to the point of marriage even though you may be very much in love now. People change so much in their 20's that what you want today and who you are today will be nothing like who are and what you want a few years from now, and even less a decade from now. So, it's a waste of time to worry about how money at this point.
Author awesomeness43 Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 for some weird reason i actually feel shes the one. i know i hear people say it all the time but im not the guy to even say love. the first time i said it to her was when it just slipped out because i thought it was weird and i kept biting my tongue. what are the percentage that young couples 18-24 actually get married later on in life?
Walk Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 what are the percentage that young couples 18-24 actually get married later on in life? Better question would be: How many of the people who get married at 18-24 stay married past 30?
CommitmentPhobe Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Better question would be: How many of the people who get married at 18-24 stay married past 30? And how about we compare those stats to how many people leave a loving relationship aged 18 and end up in a bad marriage or never getting married, or in a situation they really don't want to be in. Risks aren't one way.
Walk Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Median age at first marriage: Males: 26.9 Females: 25.3 Median age at first divorce: Males: 30.5 Females: 29 Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 25: Males: 32% Females: 50% Interesting tid bit... Married women earning at least $5,000 a year more than their husbands: 8.408 million (14.9% of all married women) Divorce rates are lowest for men and women who marry for the first time at age 28 or later. http://www.mynippon.com/dreamland/marriage-age.htm
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