ladydenise Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Ok, here goes...this is my first time posting, so be gentle! LOL I'm dating a guy who lives in NYC, so we don't get to see each other much. We are going to a concert in August, on a Thursday, so I asked him to take Friday off from work, so I don't have to take the train back home late and plus, we can have lots more fun together in the city. Well, I think I freaked him out! He said he doesn't take vacation days unless they are fully planned. I asked him this 2 months ago! I know he's anal, but this is ridiculous! I tried everything to convince him and he said he'd "think about it". Is this all a part of being anal? He said he'd get back to me because I have to tell my boss if I'm taking a vacation day. We talked Monday and he hasn't called of texted. Sooooooo...do you think I should I should call him or wait till he calls me? I'm really trying to wait it out. I'm getting very frustrated with him not letting me know. Suggestions? Part of me wants to see what's going on and part of me wants to see just how long he has the nerve to take.
Ronni_W Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 First, it's possible that all your "convincing" has got him feeling very pressured. But the rest of it is a bit 'odd', IMO. Also depends on how long you've been dating, what are going to be the sleeping arrangements for after the concert, what it is you want/expect the two of you to do on Friday, etc. Sounds more like some fears/anxieties on his part than just a "simple" case of 'anality'. How often are you usually in contact during the week? Perhaps he has 'disappeared' himself in an attempt to not have to deal with the situation -- hoping it'll just go away? Or he's not interested in taking the relationship any further (for whatever are his fears and excuses about that)?
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