lando Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Okay i'll try to keep this as short and easy to read as possible. A brief history, long story short... I knew this girl years ago, and we kind of had something back then. Very early stages if anything, but it never went anywhere. I cut things off because of another girl who I thought was a better match, but I ended up being wrong. Fast forward a number of years, and out of nowhere one day the girl I had cut things off with finds me on facebook. At that time, I was in a serious relationship, so we just kinda talked and caught up a bit. Fast forward another year, and i've been single for about 8 months. She invited me out to some live music with her and some of her friends. I decided to give it a shot, so I went. This was the first time we'd been face to face since years back, and i'd have to say that we really clicked. After that, we went on a date, which also went really well. I learned that she's a lot more mature than she was years ago, and in a nutshell, is exactly what i'm looking for. I consider myself to be rather picky when it comes to women, so to come across a girl like this is kind of a big deal for me I guess. After the first date, a few days later, we talked on the phone for an hour and a half and it was a blast. We set up a second date. After the second date is where i'm starting to get confused about all of this. Now don't get me wrong.. The second date went even better than the first! We didn't kiss on the first date, but she did kiss me on the cheek. We DID kiss on the second date, and she also told me that she liked me too. We also had set up another date.. Now here's the thing.. The next day she was leaving for a week to go to a big family reuinion in another province. The night before (on our second date), we were holding hands as I walked her to her car. We kissed more, and she asked me to keep in touch with her while she was away, by either texting her or messaging her on facebook. She left the next morning, and after a couple days, I did text her.. No reply, so I sent her a message on facebook... Again, no reply... I can understand this.. You see, the cell phone she had was actually her step-dads that she borrows on occasion, so he probably had it while they were at the reunion. Also, who knows if she was even able to get to a computer... Not to mention she was at a family reunion, so she was probably very busy anyways... I'd like to think that i'm not making excuses for her, but moreso just being rational and not making any assumptions either. Here's where I'm really starting to wonder if something is up... She gets back from the reunion, and i'm hoping to hear from her... But I don't. I know she's back because she changed her status on facebook, and it says she's already back to work. I start to wonder why she didn't at least reply to me on facebook... My worries were somewhat halted the next morning, when she did text me saying she was back, but had to take another unexpected trip to another city to get some important paperwork done in person for a student visa. I should also mention that this day is her birthday... I talked to her briefly on the phone while she was waiting at the place, but she got in and abruptly had to say goodbye. I asked her to call me later, and she said okay. All I got was a couple text messages, but she never called. I don't know why. I feel bad that I never got to say happy birthday to her. I also feel bad because she's been back for a few days now and we haven't so much as had a decent conversation. I'd like to hear about her trip get together with her again. I'm wondering if something is up... I think it's very strange for something that was going so well to suddenly take such a bizzare turn like this. What I really need help with is this.. Am I just being stupid and maybe even a bit paranoid? Am I making up problems when really there's nothing to worry about? I mean, when I wondered why she didn't at least reply to me over facebook when she got back, I was thinking along the lines of "if I liked somebody, i'd find the time or make a point of letting them know".. I don't think it's fair to expect others to behave the same way I would. Is none of this a big deal at all? I mean, as things stand right now, her and I are just two people who like eachother, but aren't really defined as anything. We're definetely not serious yet, so again, maybe i'm just making a big issue of this when I shouldnt. She has told me that she's not great at replying to texts or facebook, but assured me that she always will, and technically, she's been right, I guess i'm just impatient. Help me here.. I'd rather be told that i'm being stupid, because I can fix that. I just really needed to vent and hear other peoples' opinions, so please feel free to reply with them.
SaraLovesHerAndy Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I think you have nothing really to worry about. I just think she has been too busy and like u sed she has told u she aint very gd at replying to emails/txts. Maybe give her a text and ask when u 2 can meet up next as it feels you have had a proper chant for ages and u miss her. By sounds of it she is busy between travelling and work so just give her time. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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