ioncebelieved Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 For a while now I have looked a uplifting threads from here as well as other forums searching for keys of what I can do in the future and now. At first, I mainly searched for success stories and for tips on how to win them back. As time progresses, I am learning more than just tips from forums. I AM LEARNING THE MAIN THING IS TO GET YOU BACK!! While some days are better than others and I still search the forums for information I am learning more about how I should have done things!! One thing for sure is if my ex ever were to remove skull from her rectum and approach me with respect, sorrow and a real desire to work things out.... I will be stronger than ever and will be the "old" me, but much wiser and stronger!!! The important lesson is regardless if she ever comes to her senses or not, I will be simply amazing in due time!!!
Ronni_W Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 The important lesson is regardless if she ever comes to her senses or not, I will be simply amazing in due time!!! No...you are "simply amazing" already -- you're simply going to get MORE amazing in due time!!!
foxh1234 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I agree IOB, we have to get ourselves back. I lost myself when I was with her, I lived for her and we did everything together. I put my friends, interests and family on hold a bit and that was a mistake I won't make again. As I come out of the relationship fog, I am starting to think her dumping me was a very positive step forward in my life. I am slowly getting my life together and rebuilding relationships with friends. I don't need her anymore to complete me. I am complete and always have been. I just forgot it for the last 8 years.
quankanne Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 one thing I've learned is that no matter how often you wish it, and for whatever reason, you just can't go back. That whatever transpired is meant to be a learning experience. every once in awhile, it IS possible reconcile with some you once shared a love relationship with ... but it's often just not probable. Meaning, some things are just meant to be part of your past and chalked up to that learning experience. So that you can go forward from whatever mistakes that were made and be a better person in the next relationship. my theory is that broken relationships bring us one step closer to the love we're ultimately meant to have.
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 No...you are "simply amazing" already -- you're simply going to get MORE amazing in due time!!! I like the way you think!!! I just forgot since I was a little side track the last couple of years.
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 I agree IOB, we have to get ourselves back. I lost myself when I was with her, I lived for her and we did everything together. I put my friends, interests and family on hold a bit and that was a mistake I won't make again. As I come out of the relationship fog, I am starting to think her dumping me was a very positive step forward in my life. I am slowly getting my life together and rebuilding relationships with friends. I don't need her anymore to complete me. I am complete and always have been. I just forgot it for the last 8 years. Damn shame that she threw away what she thought was trash!!!! Only to come back begging!!! You know Fox we are a treasure!! One woman's trash is another ones treasure...ya feel me?????
northstar1 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 one thing I've learned is that no matter how often you wish it, and for whatever reason, you just can't go back. That whatever transpired is meant to be a learning experience. every once in awhile, it IS possible reconcile with some you once shared a love relationship with ... but it's often just not probable. Meaning, some things are just meant to be part of your past and chalked up to that learning experience. So that you can go forward from whatever mistakes that were made and be a better person in the next relationship. my theory is that broken relationships bring us one step closer to the love we're ultimately meant to have. That is a good point. I wonder, if my ex and I were to cross paths again down the road, would we both have changed too much? Would that chemistry still exist? If we'd dated others, could we go back? I don't know.
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 That is a good point. I wonder, if my ex and I were to cross paths again down the road, would we both have changed too much? Would that chemistry still exist? If we'd dated others, could we go back? I don't know. I believe so!!! For the most part the core meaning of us does not change!! The personality and what you are made up (value & ethics). You two would have to be on the same page!!! Also when you love somebody so great and they were NOT too terrible to you, you just to do not forget that!!! For me, MY LOVE will never die for her, but chances are since I am AMAZING she will probably miss out by that time. Really is too bad because we could have something wonderful. The train is at the station and it's departure is soon. Hope you are well today North!
Ronni_W Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I like the way you think!!! I just forgot since I was a little side track the last couple of years. Glad I was able to remind you. <Adopting stern tone> Now, do NOT forget again, cos that may lead me to have to take drastic measures!
foxh1234 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Damn shame that she threw away what she thought was trash!!!! Only to come back begging!!! You know Fox we are a treasure!! One woman's trash is another ones treasure...ya feel me????? Your right IOB, the right one will come along for both of us. We just have to be patient and wait.
Ronni_W Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 my theory is that broken relationships bring us one step closer to the love we're ultimately meant to have. Anyone starting to think that the "ultimate love" is self-love? Cos the more I like myself, the stronger my significant relationships are getting...or so it seems to me.
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 Your right IOB, the right one will come along for both of us. We just have to be patient and wait. Dude, I just hope I can be a strong as you were when You had the BOOM LOWERED ON YOU in the coffee shop. Ruined your good cup of coffee. But your self worth value shot the **** up!!! I am still feeling you strength from your day!!! Sorry to bring it up, but YOU WERE MY HERO FOR A DAY THAT DAY!!! Tough as nails on the outside even though inside felt as you were dying.
foxh1234 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Dude, I just hope I can be a strong as you were when You had the BOOM LOWERED ON YOU in the coffee shop. Ruined your good cup of coffee. But your self worth value shot the **** up!!! I am still feeling you strength from your day!!! Sorry to bring it up, but YOU WERE MY HERO FOR A DAY THAT DAY!!! Tough as nails on the outside even though inside felt as you were dying. It was a tough day, no doubt. I have had a few more tough ones since then but I am getting over it. You are too, we just have to move on, no choice really. Stay strong man.
nopainnogain Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 One thing for sure is if my ex ever were to remove skull from her rectum and approach me with respect, sorrow and a real desire to work things out.... I will be stronger than ever and will be the "old" me, but much wiser and stronger!!! I used to feel that same way too sometimes. Before our 6th breakup lol. I finally realized I could never be who I want to be with this woman
quankanne Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I wonder, if my ex and I were to cross paths again down the road, would we both have changed too much? Would that chemistry still exist? If we'd dated others, could we go back? good questions! I think there's always going to be some core attraction to the person who once held your heart (chemistry?), but because you've grown while apart, you're going to VERY quickly remember what it was that drove you nuts about that person!
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 I wonder, if my ex and I were to cross paths again down the road, would we both have changed too much? Would that chemistry still exist? If we'd dated others, could we go back? good questions! I think there's always going to be some core attraction to the person who once held your heart (chemistry?), but because you've grown while apart, you're going to VERY quickly remember what it was that drove you nuts about that person! Is that nuts in a good way or bad way??? If love was that strong for you sometimes you will give that person a forever pass at coming back unless they were so cruel that you would risk your sanity giving them another chance. My ex gets that free pass right now, but with Trust she must earn and must show me instead of tell me.
Daisyloo Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 I Once Believed: I love your signature quote. It is really making me think of my own current situation. Where is it from??
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 I Once Believed: I love your signature quote. It is really making me think of my own current situation. Where is it from?? Thank you for liking the the quote!!! As a matter of fact it is ALL MINE!!!! That is what I feel after my relationship with a MW that lied to me in the beginning and it was too late because I had fallen in love with her! If you want to talk about (your current sit) let me know I am sure we can share some stories.
Daisyloo Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 Thanks IOB, Not sure how to contact you other than on here so sorry for putting it on your thread, I'm new to this today. I posted a bit of information on a thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t159654/ and would value your insight. Still LOVE the quote - it's so apt
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 Thanks IOB, Not sure how to contact you other than on here so sorry for putting it on your thread, I'm new to this today. I posted a bit of information on a thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t159654/ and would value your insight. Still LOVE the quote - it's so apt Give me a few to look at it and I will reply to it. I would PM you, but you are not established yet.
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