damwoman Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 OK, I hate to be long and drawn out, but I feel a little background is needed. I'm 26, she's 20. We met online, and have been together over 2 years. We're both a little different. (from normal) The only real thing she can possibly complain about is that I still have not met her parents, and she still hasn't met mine. (at my request) There's no real reason other than I do not want to complicate something without reason. We both still live w/them, so avoiding that is kind of work. My main problem right now is that by my definition she is a people collector. Gay ones, brown ones, folks with weenies. It seems she likes to specialize in those different from her. About a year ago we had a big fight about what is proper for her to be contacting boys, and the signals she puts out there. At that time there was some 30 year old guy she insisted on talking to and said it was nothing. She later changed her mind and agreed w/me and eliminated him. There's another guy or 2 in her group of friends from high school, and our fight was about her going to their house usually in a coed group of 4 or so. I basically went off and told her I didn't want her doing that. And told her That it's unfair since I don't put her in those positions. I told her I didn't want to be with someone that did that, and basically asked her If I need to get away from her. It was sort of a dealbreaker for me. The last I heard was she said she didn't agree, but I was "worth it" and she'd stop. A year later, I'm on a rare trip far from home and call her. She's at the main mans house she knows I don't want her at, and that she promised to stay away from. She had a big story as to why, and said she didn't know the group would be going there. Maybe I was wrong, but my solution at the time was to avoid contacting her until I could get home and more properly address this. When we did speak again of course we both had rehersed our positions well, and she claimed she did nothing wrong. Her new take on it is that she's going to see her "friends", and I can stay or go. I thought she was wrong to leave me believing one thing, and allow another to happen. I feel she was wrong to drag me around a year telling me what I wanted to hear, being miserable, then notify me this way due to supposedly happenstance. In hindsight, she agrees she used to be wrong about a lot of the situations that got me mad. She now claims she has changed and can be trusted to use her keen judgement. I told her this was not a good way to bring it up or point that out. Opinions please...
jadedone Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 You have issues. 26 and still live with your parents. 2 year relationship and you won't meet her parents? Your mad because she goes to a guy's house with a GROUP of people.
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