Blondi26 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Any advice on how to get an ex back? I know sometimes it's not possible or for the best, but any pointers on what to do or not to do would help. Thanks.
justaman99 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 don't do anything. you can't make them want you back. they can only realize this on their own. If you push and probe it won't help and if you do get back together it could be on the basis of guilt instead of a natural desire to work it out. Just be patient and let things form if they will. -Just
cookiecrumbles Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Yup i agree with just, you cant do anything but let it go, some say absence makes the heart grow fonder, so if they are really that into you and the relationship was meant to be they will come back, if not you just need to move on in the mean time and start thinking about yourself..its hard im doing it myself at the moment but you will come out on top later
vivrantflo Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 What happend in your relationship?? Why did it end??
CaliGuy Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Honestly, you can't. But the best "chance" seems to be moving on with your life and dating someone new. That's usually when an Ex comes sniffing around.
Angel1111 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Look at the 'Love Tactics' website - it may have something useful for you.
foxh1234 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Any advice on how to get an ex back? I know sometimes it's not possible or for the best, but any pointers on what to do or not to do would help. Thanks. As others have said, there is no way to get your ex back. My advice to you would be to go complete No Contact ( NC) and give them space and time to sort out their feelings. You can use this time to heal, get to know yourself again, do things you couldn't do while in a relationship, hang with friends, workout, etc...... Time away from your ex may make them realize how great you were. It may also make them miss you. Let me say this once again, you cannot make them want you, no matter what you do or say. Let them be, disappear, let them get to see what life without you is like. This will be very hard for you, but it is the only chance you have. Even after doing NC and moving on, your ex may not come back. Be prepared for that and don't live everyday hoping for it. Work on yourself, move on and if they come back, take it from there. Good Luck
WiseOne1 Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Yea theres totally nothing you can do to get a ex back. trying to reason with a EX might push them even further away, meaning that your telling them that they cant do better and it might make them feel challenged to prove you wrong. NC is a way to make them miss you or to heel yourself, that way sooner or later you wont want them back or if they do decide to come back the ball is more in your yard, seeing that you will no longer have those feelings for them anymore so its whatever. So no matter what happens then your not losing anymore. Most of the time they do come back and once they do you no longer want them! 1.Even they've let themselves go. 2.You've found someone better. 3.You've come to ur senses and is starting to think what did i see in them. 4.They lost there dignity and someone else mistreated them so badly that its a turn off for you. 5.Or they've been around the block. If the breakup has to do with you doing them wrong, the most you can do is apolgize and try to make up for it. But if its the grass is greener scernario, nothing what so ever!
selena_cat Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Yea theres totally nothing you can do to get a ex back. trying to reason with a EX might push them even further away, meaning that your telling them that they cant do better and it might make them feel challenged to prove you wrong. NC is a way to make them miss you or to heel yourself, that way sooner or later you wont want them back or if they do decide to come back the ball is more in your yard, seeing that you will no longer have those feelings for them anymore so its whatever. So no matter what happens then your not losing anymore. Most of the time they do come back and once they do you no longer want them! 1.Even they've let themselves go. 2.You've found someone better. 3.You've come to ur senses and is starting to think what did i see in them. 4.They lost there dignity and someone else mistreated them so badly that its a turn off for you. 5.Or they've been around the block. If the breakup has to do with you doing them wrong, the most you can do is apolgize and try to make up for it. But if its the grass is greener scernario, nothing what so ever! okay, i need help on this one,can you please clarify what you meant on #4 and maybe #1 if you can,thanks!
WiseOne1 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 1. They're no longer attractive, there a total mess. 4. Someone else has hurt them or f***** over them, so therefore its a turn off. I know this, i've been through, I had a ex a longtime ago that I wanted back so much, but the Act 1 and 4 was committed. She was a virgin when she was with me, but when she wanted to come back she had slept with 14 guys (No Lie) <Thats act 4. She was sexy and beautiful when she was with me, but when she came back she had gained atlest 250 pounds and was no longer attractive. <Thats act 1. Bassically what im saying is one day your gonna sit back and think what did i see in them? Or your gonna even find someone that makes them look not worth your time.
simon sez Posted July 28, 2008 Posted July 28, 2008 START DATING others. Don't call them.. If they call you, be upbeat on the phone, but cut them off nicely and quickly by telling them you were just running out the door. Say, thanks for calling, I will talk to you later. Then don't call them back... Leaving them alone and seeing other people to let them SEE that you MAY be over them is the key... Works like a charm. Most people are too ignorant to see this common thread to getting someone back. Without doing that, your chances are remote, at best.
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