replicator Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I get your point I thought that it was closed minded at one point... but why is it such an outcast thing to do... not saying not common but generally not considered a great idea?? and why is it embarrassing... and why do people warn against it... why is it so controversial... most of my friends have tried it and won't do it anymore for one reason or another.. some couples lie about where they met.... I seriously felt wrong about it but I don't really understand why... For me, it is sort of a convenient avenue to see what's out there, but I would infinitely prefer to meet someone in person. You get an aura about someone when you meet in person, and no picture and description will ever give you that. I've sworn to myself the next time I meet someone I'm attracted to, I'm going to approach them.. I haven't been single since I was 19, so I've lost a bit of my mojo, but I'm not getting any younger. I think sites like POF, any remotely decent looking girl will get so many messages, they'll get a big head and unrealistic expectations.
kizik Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 I understand the online cynicism; I too am on POF (plentyoffish) and find it lame. I did online for a couple weeks but ultimately just felt desperate and somewhat creepy. I'm fortunate enough to be going to a big city U this fall where meeting people will be common. So, for me the key is PATIENCE.
Author confused and broken Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 For me, it is sort of a convenient avenue to see what's out there, but I would infinitely prefer to meet someone in person. You get an aura about someone when you meet in person, and no picture and description will ever give you that. I've sworn to myself the next time I meet someone I'm attracted to, I'm going to approach them.. I haven't been single since I was 19, so I've lost a bit of my mojo, but I'm not getting any younger. I think sites like POF, any remotely decent looking girl will get so many messages, they'll get a big head and unrealistic expectations. Go for it please... if you meet someone you're attracted to approach them... Also who wants to read the dozens and dozens of creepy messages... You can't avoid them and... I always thought No I do not want to see a picture of you c*%k (can I use that word) anyways... Why are guys so shy to approach girls... I love it when guys approach me its flattering... And are girls suppose to be approaching guys too??? Some guys I have talked to don't bother picking up girls because they cna do it so much easier online...
Author confused and broken Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 I understand the online cynicism; I too am on POF (plentyoffish) and find it lame. I did online for a couple weeks but ultimately just felt desperate and somewhat creepy. I'm fortunate enough to be going to a big city U this fall where meeting people will be common. So, for me the key is PATIENCE. Glad to know I am not the only one who felt desperate and creepy
tealeafbud Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Yes, there are. I think they're all trying to get over their ex's. Or are just sitting at home playing video games. Not sure.
sunshinegirl Posted July 25, 2008 Posted July 25, 2008 Well, this is what I mean. Riddle me this. You're attracted to the "bad boys," aren't you? Guys that don't say a whole lot, and are tough, and generally unavailable. Funny, until now I hadn't associated these quiet types as "bad boys". How could my ex have been a bad boy? He's a scientist, has a daughter, leads a responsible life... ...but boy. Impossible to have a two-way relationship with.
LovelyStyle Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 I have had no luck with men and am just going through my latest broken heart... But I am not the only one... my best friend is just getting out of an abusive relationship and trust me she no longer has any faith in me I can certainly understand your dismay about men and relationships. I feel it, too. I have been in love more times than I care to remember. In my younger years, I survived emotional, physical, verbal, financial and sexual abuse in relationships. I have emerged wiser. As they say, with age and experince, comes wisdom. Now, however, even with the greatest of guys, my relationships still have not gone the distance and I end up devestated, over and over again. I heard a song a few years ago that seems to explain my life perfectly: Everytime I turn around, I find my heart in pieces on the ground, I'm so lonely, I'm so lonely, when will I find my one and only? Hang in there and know that others feel your pain.
fral945 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Why are guys so shy to approach girls... I love it when guys approach me its flattering... And are girls suppose to be approaching guys too??? Some guys I have talked to don't bother picking up girls because they cna do it so much easier online... The same reason you're afraid to approach them: rejection. No reason you can't approach. You can't expect good men to just approach you out of the blue. You can expect men who want to have sex with you to approach you out of the blue, that's about it. I think most men don't expect a great catch of a woman to approach them, but women seem to think prince charming will come sweep them off their feet. Too many romance novels and movies, I think. I know it's probably easier being a woman to just wait for the men, because they will come to you. But you are relying a lot more on luck. You'll probably always find a man, but never the one you want. If you want to increase your chances of finding a good man, you have to take a little initiative, whether it is flirting or finding slick ways to let a guy know you're interested. You don't have to ask a guy out directly, but if there is one you really like talk to him and let him know you're interested. Ask "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" or tell him "I'm surprised you're still single". If he is interested he will get the idea. Good men are not always the most charming or outgoing, so you may be overlooking them.
motive2002 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Yes, there are. I think they're all trying to get over their ex's. Or are just sitting at home playing video games. Not sure. Haha Tealeaf! Your crystal ball is crystal clear!
motive2002 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Here's something that will help. I know I should really take my own advice here, but get some hobbies that include members of the opposite sex. Find someone you already have similar interests with that you can discuss. If a guy simply approaches you, it's flattering, but you know they probably just want to get down your pants. Now if I can meet someone that loves World of Warcraft, movies on the couch, electronic music, shooting pool and drinking beer.. oh what the hell am I thinking, time to get my paladin to level 65......
ioncebelieved Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 As a matter of fact... yes there is. Especially on the other end here jockeying this computer EXIST not a decent man, but a GREAT MAN!!!
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