...Used to post here with such sadness...now am dating someone new =) ...

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I just thought I would come back here and make a post. I once came to this site with such sadness about my Ex, and before that with sadness about a different man. I thought I would never get over my Ex. He hurt me badly when he told me he did not care about my life. I told him I would not be able to be friends with him and we have not spoken since...I honestly thought I would feel this hole in my heart for quite some time.

 

Fate has a funny way, I suppose because now I am kind of dating someone new and I do not have any feelings for my Ex. I think they were basically killed off when I realized how selfish he was throughout our relationship. I do not think he is a bad person but I see how he was definitely not right for me and I am happy to be away from that. I do wish him the best but still do not wish to be friends. I happened to meet someone that is not selfish and that has a huge interest in my life. He is willing to learn about my interests and I am willing to learn about his. We are taking things slowly and started out as friends.

 

I just wanted to make this post to show people that are struggling an example of someone that no longer feels the heavy pain of a breakup. In all honesty, I often look back and wonder what I was thinking! I appreciate the learning experience that I had from the breakup but I have absolutely no interest in going back to the past. I am very content with being single and dating someone that is special to me now. Keep your chin up, please. =)

[Kamille]

That's such good news btb! Isn't it funny how our perspective changes once we are out of a bad relationship?

[jerbear]

Glad to see a happy outcome.

 

I still would suggest you keep you chin up, keep doing what you are doing, get your degree, after that the world is your oyster.

 

Don't let the current guy/friend, ex, or anyone stop you from pursuing your dreams.

[tealeafbud]

Congrats. and thanks so much for sharing. I hope to someday post something similar. Your post is very inspiring and gives me hope.

[XxBacktoBlackXx]

Thanks Kamille. I definitely agree that our perspectives seem to change after a bad relationship! I swear, after the breakup I thought there was no way I was going to be able to survive this. I seriously listened to Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" at least 3 times a day and put it on my jogging mix when running. I used to have visions of marrying my EX while we were together because he would say things like, "What if we got married", etc. I know he honestly thought that at the time, too. Now I look back and am thanking G-d that it did not happen. We were only together 8 months but it was a very serious relationship. It was my first serious relationship, actually which perhaps made it a lot harder to fathom that it was over. But now I understand that and am very thankful that it is...I would not take it back as I learned many lessons from it, namely to not give and give without any type of return. That is shooting yourself in the foot and it will slowly strip away your self-esteem. I have also learned that you should not rely on anyone else for your self-esteem but yourself. It is good to learn how to be by yourself and how to like being single. =)

 

Jerbear, I definitely agree that I should concentrate on school. I am very happy because this summer I am getting a 4.0. Yay! I did not expect that. I started summer classes after the breakup so for awhile I was quite miserable but now that has been my focus.

 

Tealeaf, I am happy that gives you inspiration. Best of luck to you.

[Green]

wow this is scary, total turn around eh

[XxBacktoBlackXx]

KMT, I hope it is not scary. =p I am happy now!

[D-Lish]

Hey you,

 

That's great news!

Gives me some hope too!

 

Must feel so good to go from a selfish guy to a giving one...!

I am happy for you!

D

[kizik]

Hi B2B,

 

reading your posts helped me here a lot at the beginning. Glad to hear you are doing well!

 

-k

[justaman99]

I'm happy for you B2B. Good to read that you can take that experience as a learning experience and move on.

 

-Just