Dunks Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Hello everyone..I'm not new to this site so I'm very familar with love shack its been awhile since I have been on here because things were good..but now I'm back with another heartbreak and trying to cope.... Well let's get it started... I had developed a friendship with this guy who one wasn't ready for a relationship because of his career and his son..Which I understood and thought I was gonna be smart in this frienship and NOT catch any feelings, but I did because I thought he was a honest person, and I felt so comfortable around him, but he wasnt my type in the beginning but he grew on me..Things were wonderful he said that with me things could lead to something else and telling me how it felt like we were together, and saying and doing things like he was my boyfriend and I was his girlfriend BUT WE DIDNT HAVE THAT "title"...Anyways with his career he travels..I didnt have a problem with it except when he would travel to go back to his hometown where his family and son is including baby mama..But I remember when we first began talking he could not stand his baby mama not sure why and didn't really ask.. But anyways he went home several times during the 7 months we were talking and it seemed like everytime he went home I was afraid and worried about him and his son's mother and other females..Because after the first time he went home and came back I took notice in him talkin to someone else through text and myspace and I asked him about it and her and he said she was cool..I left it alone but wasn't still sitting right with me...Then after that situation he like disappeared and was very distance but said things wouldnt change with us but he went ghost on me for 3 weeks!! I texted and called but nothing in return from him..Then he popped out of no where asking me to come see him and all that crap! Im like where have you been!? And he just said he been gone home for awhile and I was upset about it like wow you couldnt say anything after the times I called and texted???? So we got back to how we were in the beginning of our friendship but I notice some pics on his profile of him and his baby mama together..and I remember he told me that him and her were just friends and that he wanted to focus on his career and not on a relationship..I wasn't to fond of it but I was like I cant question him because we arent together and that is baby mama she will ALWAYS come first and will ALWAYS love her because of their child...Then he went home again for a Third time and I was like worried with what new thing I would see now..And sure enough he came back with more pics of him and her together and a pic of him,her and the baby together..Then on one of the pictures of him and her a comment was left by the baby mama's sister saying "2008 couple of the year!!!! hahahaha" Then I also seen the same pic in the baby mama's profile with the caption under the picture saying " me and my heart on his big day" And I knew automatically that she was talking about him and his big day because he told me about his big day when he got back... Well I was tlking to him ealier and when I seen the comment I kindly asked "Are you single?" and he about lost it!! He said that I always seemed to have a question about his myspace page and that I was sick!! He made me feel like I just messed up because I asked about something I seen..So I tried calling and talking to him about it but all he did was ignore my calls and get ghost on me again for almost two weeks! Then he came out of no where and texted me to come over and like a fool I did! And we talked about the situation and he said he didnt mean "sick" like how I took it he meant as if I was silly, and that he wasn't even worried about the whole situation.... Well things went back to how they were that day for the next two days because I was leaving for out of town so I spent my last days with him...BIG MISTAKE!! Boy when I left I found out that him and his baby mama were indeed back together and plan on getting married! My gut feeling was right!! I knew something was up from that comment to the pics and to her profile!! But I didnt wanna believe it..I found out that they have been together since that last time he went home which was at the beginning of last month when he and I were still talking and sleeping with each other!!! I made some mistakes in this so called friendship..the signs were there, my gut was right and I still let him back in after those times he went ghost on me...I'm not upset at the fact that he and his baby mama are back together I'm upset that he didnt tell me when I asked him!! He just got mad at me...I'm upset that I was the convience girl to him while he was in my city for his career...Im mad that he was still doing all the things we did before while he was with his baby mama...And what makes it so bad is that his baby mama dont care that he was messing around!! She said it was just something for him to do while he was away... I dont know guys...I'm hurt, angry, feeling foolish!! Just Ugh!!! Any advice to get through this will be greatly appreciated..Thanks for reading..
LovelyStyle Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Hey there, I can imagine how you feel. It sucks to feel played. But that's what Playas do. They play. They lie. They break womens hearts. There's nothing like experience to teach us lessons. This was a lot of drama, girl. Are you all in your 20s? It appears that the baby mama has accepted the drama that comes with being with this man. Poor thing has a child by him. Now she even wants to marry him. Sorry you went through this.
april1325 Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Im sorry you had to go through this. You have every right to feel this way. It hurts so bad to be used by someone who you care about. What dont kill you, only makes you stronger. I wish you well:bunny:
Author Dunks Posted July 28, 2008 Author Posted July 28, 2008 Yeah it sucks so much!!! And what makes it even worse is I have to see him on tv in August because his career is boxing! So he is in Beijing right now! And yes we are both 21..
Author Dunks Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 I'm just in disgust with all of his lies!! I trusted him so much to not hurt me and what did he do!? He hurt me! And I had to find out everything from the baby mama myspace page! He couldn't even be man enough to tell me he wants to be back with his baby mama..all that TALK he talked to me and I fell for it HARD..Now look at me..feeling like a fool crying almost everyday over him..missing him...struggling to watch tv because the Olympic games come on soon..and what makes it worse is I seen him on tv last night..and it just brought back all the memories!! I HATE THIS!!
citizen67 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Be glad that you are not the baby momma - he is SOO gonna cheat on her. I'm sorry you are dealing with this - that sucks
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