selena_cat Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 i was just curious, i hear about the dumper,contacting the dumpeee,after breakup, but none of it pertained LDR relationships,. i'm on NC after a bad LDR excperience/breakup, but i still wonder how the jrk/persons is doing,its been alost 6 months-oops whose counting. literally he treated me like yesterdays trash because he met someone locally,and sent real mean insulting e-letters acting as though i was not good enough for him b/c i refused his friendship which became one-sided,since then i never responded to them and has been on NC. But part of me stil wonders did this jerk get away w/it and now is acting like i dont exist and forget if i ever meant anything to him. i'm sure i'll get lots of short respnses,He's with someone else,move on" which is fine but not sure if its true or not if he's with the same girl ,he is a player. but i'm just curious what are the odds of hearing from an LDR,he's in Denmark,i'm in US Virgin Islands,)pretty neat place to recouperate after a LDR heartbreak) has anyone heard from their LDR ex? what are their experience please share,thanks!
SaraLovesHerAndy Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Im in my 1st LDR so i cant share an experience like u have but i expect your always going to wonder whats happened to him etc. because u were with him and thought he cared about u and then ended it so badly with you. Its just human to wonder wots happened to people especially when u cant realli find out xxx
Eilonwy Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Hmm, I can't tell you anything useful, as I'm still in my first LDR and hope it will never end. But I've been wondering the same! I think it would be horrible for me if we had no contact at all anymore. But we're 7000 km apart, so... I guess we could easily lose touch forever.
Author selena_cat Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 Hmm, I can't tell you anything useful, as I'm still in my first LDR and hope it will never end. But I've been wondering the same! I think it would be horrible for me if we had no contact at all anymore. But we're 7000 km apart, so... I guess we could easily lose touch forever. dont mean to sound overly caution but whatever you do dont make that erson the center of yoru world, i did that mistake and is still paying for that but i lear things also
ioncebelieved Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 dont mean to sound overly caution but whatever you do dont make that erson the center of yoru world, i did that mistake and is still paying for that but i lear things also Same goes here. LDR relationships hardly ever work unless someone makes a sacrifice to relocate. I would have relocated for mine all the way!!!!
Eilonwy Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 dont mean to sound overly caution but whatever you do dont make that erson the center of yoru world, i did that mistake and is still paying for that but i lear things also Oh, I agree. I do have other close people and interests, of course. But it would just totally suck never to hear from him again... not to know how he is, never to talk about our common interests anymore etc. From experience I know it would take me more than three years to get over such a loss of contact.
LL23 Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Im in the same situation but i cant say my ex was a jerk. We were in love and the distance and other issues came into play. I originally ended it and then i called him regretting it and he already met someone else. He cut me off completely and changed his info to pretend i never existed and to get over me. So ,to answer your question...... i would hope somewhere along the road they will think of us and maybe contact....thats just my hope
Author selena_cat Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 Oh, I agree. I do have other close people and interests, of course. But it would just totally suck never to hear from him again... not to know how he is, never to talk about our common interests anymore etc. From experience I know it would take me more than three years to get over such a loss of contact. I'm right here with you ,'m still not so over this even though he can act like i dont exist,thats the hard thing about LDR
daithi Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Me and you are in the same situation. While I have pestered her about coming back to me, and she has just pulled further and further away. I miss the nights with her head on my chest, I miss her incredibly, yet it seems she does not miss me.
Karyyk Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 It happens. My ex contacted me for the first time in 4 months a few days ago (only the second time since it actually happened) and I was frankly happy to hear from her. She wants me to call her, but I don't want to get too emotionally attached again, so I'm not sure how much to do. On the other hand, I've been ignored by the ex and others before after being broken up with, so I know how it feels. You wonder how things could go so wrong, how they could just detach like that, why you don't mean more to them, whether or not all their words were lies. My ex came back (and then we ended up breaking up again, years later), another I became friends with, still another continues to ignore me. I guess it's a toss-up.
Rollercoasterr Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I can say from experience that sometimes they do. My SO and I were together years ago, and then due to issues, we broke up. My world was crushed and I thought I would never get over it. We tried NC for a while, but we always ended up coming back to each other for support during random times in our lives. Yeah, we both had someone during this entire time, but we couldn't help it. Now all these years later, we're back together. For good. I'm moving up there in January. I'm going to be with this man for the rest of my life. So yes, contact DOES occur. At least in my case. HE contacted me first, though. Always him. I tried to ignore his emails and messages. But I couldn't. Dont know if this answers your question or not, but I tried!
vonerik012 Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Roller coaster, So you loved him but ignored him?
Rollercoasterr Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Roller coaster, So you loved him but ignored him? I tried to. Because he had hurt me so badly. I can't even begin to describe the situation, but I've loved him for years, and even through everything my heart has always belonged to him. So yes, I loved him but ignored him. Because I wanted to forget how bad he had hurt me. I didn't want to love him that much and have him not love me back. But when we got back together he told me that he had loved me all along and thats why he kept talking to me, kept sending emails, stuff like that.
vonerik012 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 So, did he stop contacting you for a while, and then you missed him? Or what it constant?
Rollercoasterr Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 So, did he stop contacting you for a while, and then you missed him? Or what it constant? When we first broke up we didn't talk for about 2 months. Then he contacted me and we talked for about 3 months. And then she found out we were talking, freaked out(I can't blame her), and started monitoring everything, so we stopped again for about a month. We talked pretty much constant with no more than that original 2 months of us not talking. After a while I started to get tired of loving him so much, and him loving me but couldn't bring up the courage to break up with her(every time he tried she threatened to kill herself and he's too nice of a guy to break up with her when she's crazy), so I decided to try and stop contact. Of course, it backfired and I missed him like crazy so I started answering his emails again. And then she ended up breaking up with him because he wouldn't marry her or get her pregnant. He said that he knew he didn't really love her, that it was me all along, so he would have never even considered asking her. It's taken almost 4 years for us to get back to where we are, but I actually think it was for the best. Had we stayed together back then, we might not have been together now because we were both a little immature about everything. Now that we've been through so much to get back to one another its like a completely new relationship. This is better this time around, and it's not going to end again. This is the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. I'm sure of it.
Author selena_cat Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 It happens. My ex contacted me for the first time in 4 months a few days ago (only the second time since it actually happened) and I was frankly happy to hear from her. She wants me to call her, but I don't want to get too emotionally attached again, so I'm not sure how much to do. On the other hand, I've been ignored by the ex and others before after being broken up with, so I know how it feels. You wonder how things could go so wrong, how they could just detach like that, why you don't mean more to them, whether or not all their words were lies. My ex came back (and then we ended up breaking up again, years later), another I became friends with, still another continues to ignore me. I guess it's a toss-up. its true, but you know what really helped is time, they are right when they say time is a healer and also not expect it. but it does make you think if everything they told you was a lie
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