pinkybecky Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Hi Guys.... Been with this guy before and i no he reali likes me and ive started to like him however hes away just now for 2 months and were just texting but honestly i dont no about you guys but i hate it cause im usually busy and forget to write back or write back the next day so he gets the wrong impression of me and thinks im not to interested tho i am!! I need to change this texting rut were in and maybe consider a phone call once a week instead i much prefer that but i dont want to sound desperate and i want him to no i do actually quite like him without sounding bad how could i say both these things il text him and say it other wise i think il loose my chance!! thanks x
Green Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 He may be playing his own games, such as limiting his txt's or what ever else so he doesn't seem desperate. If you like him then my best advice to you would be to just call him.
Keridan Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 I have to agree with KMT. Just call the boy. You're worrying too much. In the same situation, I would want someone to call me.
Gemini0525 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Texting... I haven't decided if I love it or hate it yet. I think too many people rely on it too much. It's not 100% reliable... sometimes there are delays and if the other person is a textaholic, they tend to get impatient and get the wrong impression. Plus, it can be so impersonal! Definitely pick up the phone and CALL!
AdrianaLima Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 So that you won't lose what you have going on with this guy, I would just call him and explain to him about how business you are. But a phone call needs to be made more than just once a week, as you stated. Calling is way better anyway. In a text, you don't know the tone of it. Just tell him what's going on, so he won't be second-guessing about you.
Author pinkybecky Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 I cant exactly call him cause of his work, i dont work so its easy for him to call but i dont no what times and stuff to be callin him! so should i just send a message first to say look this is what i want how can i put it so its not to intense for him lol
AdrianaLima Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Just say,'Hey, when is it a good time to call. I need to speak to you'. Of course you can abbreviate all of this.
Gemini0525 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Be very clear - most guys don't "read between the lines!" Tell him you would like to talk to him. Ask him to give you a good time to call him... then you can explain this to him over the phone instead of him trying to decifer a text msg. Good luck!
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Becky, you're right; switch over to phone calls ASAP. Texting is great for logistical matters (where, when, how much, etc), but not when you're trying to get a read on a guy. You'll get further in a 5 minute call than a whole week's worth of texting. Besides, if you are correct and he does like you, nothing will make his day brighter than to hear your voice, even if it is just a short "hi, I miss ya" call. Guys will never admit to things like that, but it's true. Be very clear - most guys don't "read between the lines!" True that. It's like Men's Rule #1 (which is a misnomer, since ALL of the rules are numbered 1 - they're equally important!):Ask for what you want. Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it! The closest we've ever gotten to subtlety is "nice shoes".
refurb Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 One person's "too forward" could be another person's "too demure." Don't worry about how others want you to act. Just be you. If one guy doesn't like the real you, another will. That pretty much sums it up. It's like worrying if you're attractive. To some people you are, to some you aren't, so why worry about it? RF
xpaperxcutx Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Texting doesn't work. It's stressful on both parties waiting for a reply. Just hit him up and actually talk to him for once.
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