ooopnut4 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Im 23 and shes JUST TURNED 21, she started a new internship with other 20 somethings and started to hang out with them a lot then she wanted a break, made out with one of the guys at a party and now talks to him on the phone but says shes not going to start a relationship with him. She said these new people understand her because they go to college like her and can relate and listen to her better as I have not gone to college or made any important career moves. She said she is not in love with me anymore all of a sudden and doesnt want to talk at all. I love her so much and took her for granted thinking wed never break up and now that we have i cant stand it and i realize now what I was doing wrong but she doesnt want to give it another chance. what do I do? Leave her alone? I want her back so bad i wanted to be with her forever she waited for me to get into school and I didnt and I didnt realize she would break up with me and now im afraid if i go she will find someone else. It has been 3 weeks and she has only called me once, wont answer any of my calls or texts how do you shut someone out like that. The night she called me last week she just wanted to see if i was ok because she said she was down the shore at a bar and ran into someone that told her i was havin a hard time. She said maybe one day down the road and i pleaded with her to no avail. I have done no contact since then except for one drunken text asking to be friends one day..does this sound hopeless? She also said she is still talking to that guy she hooked up with because he understands her, nice to her and is going through the same thing as he broke up wit his girl the same week! wtf! please help she also said she knows we will talk again one day even if I dont call her she wont forget about me, my bday is next week if its a text should I ignore it? Or will she ever even call me again?
bish Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Im 23 and shes JUST TURNED 21, she started a new internship with other 20 somethings and started to hang out with them a lot then she wanted a break, made out with one of the guys at a party and now talks to him on the phone but says shes not going to start a relationship with him. She said these new people understand her because they go to college like her and can relate and listen to her better as I have not gone to college or made any important career moves. She said she is not in love with me anymore all of a sudden and doesnt want to talk at all. I love her so much and took her for granted thinking wed never break up and now that we have i cant stand it and i realize now what I was doing wrong but she doesnt want to give it another chance. what do I do? Leave her alone? I want her back so bad Why? She basically insults you because you don't have her level of education and since she is the partying type, you can't trust her. Leave her in the dust. She can run with the party crowd and she'll possibly be here some day complaining about how she got played.
Author ooopnut4 Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 she was never the party girl until this summer started and she met these new people
Author ooopnut4 Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 ok so i get home from work and there is a birthday present and a card..so i call and leave a voicemail just saying thank you, then i get a text saying even though we arent together anymore im always there for you and always proud of you WTF! why am i getting this **** now even though shes with someone else!
daithi Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 NO CONTACT!. I have pushed at my girl to come back and she hasnt after seven months, so no contact. She is doing the college thing now, but luckily for you none of those dudes will stick. She will be back, but she has got to see what she is missing first. 1. Get in Shape 2. Get with other girls 3. Arrange a 'friend' date with her 4. Make sure she hears about the other girl 5. Hopefully she will come crawling back I did none of this, i just grovelled and begged and im still on my own.
Author ooopnut4 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 ok now i get a text last night saying "just wanted to wish u an early happy bday cuz tomorrow is gonna be crazy, but i understand if you dont want to talk. so i wrote back like an hour later "thanks lyss" i know she wanted to talk but not calling her or acknowledging her.. is that the right thing to do if i want her back?
WiseOne1 Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 ok now i get a text last night saying "just wanted to wish u an early happy bday cuz tomorrow is gonna be crazy, but i understand if you dont want to talk. so i wrote back like an hour later "thanks lyss" i know she wanted to talk but not calling her or acknowledging her.. is that the right thing to do if i want her back? defintely, you did nothing wrong here. And when a female says "I understand if you dont want to talk" its a mind game. NC is the best thing right now, sooner or later she'll be calling you asking do you want to talk to what?
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