justaman99 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I see a thread started by my pain pal kiz about whose ex has NOT contacted them but I am curious whose HAS. Say, after a month of no contact or even 6 months. What went down? Did you ignore the email, text or phone call? What are you thinking and feeling?
kizik Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Oh man I'm not gonna read this thread, b/c it would tear me up.
wareagle Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I've posted it on here before, but for ****s and giggles I'll post it again. She was fishing when she texts me a few days after she crushed me asking if I had sold my truck! Then she text me asking if I was going to ruin the vacation we had planned for her daughters birthday, which I paid for! Then I find out that she didn't take her daughter in May for her birthday she is now going to use it for her honeymoon! Then she text me (In response to my headline on my myspace page) that read " Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers" She said Isn't life wonderful, praise the lord. I got this text about 10 min. after posting that headline! Then she text me, Goodluck in life, I believe that there is someone out there for everyone, it just wasn't us. I hope you find that someone. Then she text me, Hey everybody I am marrying the man of my dreams. Then she text me, hey everybody I am 5 weeks pregnant, keep us in your prayers. Haven't heard from her in a while now, I guess she hasn't found anything she can text me to try and hurt me with yet? LOL Yea this was in like a 2 and half 3 month period!!!
AdrianaLima Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I had an ex to call me about five months or so later. He called me like everything was cool between the two of us. I sat on the phone, saying to myself that he has the audacity to call me. I just strictly told him to don't call me anymore.That was the end of that.
Crestfallen_KH Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 My cheating ex-husband still does on occasion, but it's always for housekeeping stuff related to the divorce. His name is still on my automobile loan (the rate we got was unbelievable) and the divorce decree states he has to sign off on it when it's paid off. But, his name is first on the loan so any mail related to my car goes to him. He's been in touch lately because he got a recall notice and just yesterday got a DEQ letter. He just asks if he should forward them and if I'm at the same address. And trust me, it's not because he's checking up on me. He's never once, since he elected to break up the marriage and move in with her, tried to contact me for the purposes of reconciling. And any apology/emotion/explanation etc. that I've ever gotten from him has always been in response to contact initiated by me. Now that I'm pretty much done processing the reasons and emotions of the divorce (my last flipout session was in March) I never contact him for any reason. Whatever work is left is work I need to do alone. My ex-boyfriend consistently contacts me (or I have contacted him) after we break up. For some reason, we are having trouble totally letting the other go, though I think we both know a break is best if we ever hope to remain "just friends." And, unfortunately, each "breakup" just gets nastier. In many ways, it really is better when they just ignore you.
Nevermind Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 After sending me an e-mail that he just doesn't want to hear from me anymore (after he had always initiated contact (!!) ) there was nothing for 3 weeks. I felt great. Then I got an SMS that started with "Please don't think that I just disappeared..." He told me about his exams (as if I cared) and that he wanted to send something back to me. Well, first of all he didn't need to announce that. Second, he pretended that not hearing from him was terrible and didn't even allude to having told me to **** off. I got an e-mail saying that I should forgive him if I could. And.. I asked him how he could expect that from me, when he apparently never even forgave me for reading his e-mails. So, after a phone-call and three minutes of yelling (he) what a terrible thing I was, I am in tears. I wrote a very teary e-mail, to which I once again got the "I don't want to hear from you, **** off already" e-mail. In which he "graciously" added that he forgave me and had already forgotten me. That hurt particularly, because it feels as if he renounced the entire relationship. And this really, really pains me t no end. Uhm. Yeah. He is a psycho. Sorry, but there are no other words. I definately didn't handle it well, but his behaviour was crappy, insulting, mean and arrogant as hell. Also, weighing reading e-mails against 3months of affair and other little things...yeah. Right, I am the bad person in this scenario. Of course. Contact simply isn't possible until he realises what he did, and this I think he never will. Why should he? For him it's not 3 months past our break-up, but the 6th month into his new relationship. Jerk. So, kizik. You can read this. Because that contact simply hurt und put me way back on the way to recovery. I envy those that get good contact, but it's better to have nothing than this.
Author justaman99 Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 So, kizik. You can read this. Because that contact simply hurt und put me way back on the way to recovery. I envy those that get good contact, but it's better to have nothing than this. I agree. I think I am just getting into this myself although my contact has been good and very neutral but it confuses me a bit.
kizik Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 NM: I am sorry to hear that those words transpired. Sounds like each and every contact with him has been painful. Personally my contact has been good but it has been false. I have not told her how upset I am with her or how sad I am. Why "show my hand"? Anyway, we're like 2 months without speaking and a month+ no emails or anything. I like what CaliGuy said earlier about how the only good contact is, basically, "I'm sorry, will you give another chance?" At which point, like Fox, you don't even want to b/c you're so disgusted with them.
confused and broken Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 My ex contacted me after one month NC- I ignored his e-mail and then a couple months later when he contacted me again went over to his house and slept with him which led to more dysfunctional relationship... Another time I was contacted after 3 months this time I did not ignore but only hung out on the first meet up which led to the second meet up which of course... I'm thinking and feeling... That this time I am going to stick to NC.... no matter how hard it is because breaking it sucks worse..
Redbull Rider Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 i dont usually screw up in relationships and the worse someone has screwed me over has been forgiven. so i get contacted by my exes all the time. i'm a great person i cant blame them lol
foxh1234 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 You guys know my deal, she called 2 weeks ago and then emailed, called and then emailed, I told her to get lost. She showed up at lunch and I told her to get lost again. That is the short version.
borelandkaren Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 i dont usually screw up in relationships and the worse someone has screwed me over has been forgiven. so i get contacted by my exes all the time. i'm a great person i cant blame them lol Great avatar, great quote, great person!!!! Yeah, I'm in love too!!!!!:lmao:
PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 I got an out of the blue 'how are you' email this week. Totally unexpected. Although the timing was hilarious. I had been on a date the night before, and had my very first post-break-up kiss. The very next day, the ex sent the email. Spooky. I suppose it's true what they say, they can sense when you are getting over them. Not expecting anything more from it though, think it's just him dealing with his guilt. I'll probably reply because it will eat me up more if I don't. It is all about me these days afterall. Once he knows 'i'm fine' he'll probably disappear again. But who cares, at least I won't have to deal with the 'what if' senarios replaying in my head. It's the best thing for me at this point.
roghornio Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Pretty much every other week since February. Bar a stint of 6 weeks in April/May and the past 2 weeks . Everything is fading away… seems so long ago now. It is true – I can only really remember good things. You know hearing from her she has a new boyfriend has really helped move things along. Initially it stung, but it gave me that final push. And man..!!! there are some fine girls out there.
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