Maggs Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Well the title sums it up. I always find the last week or week and a half before a visit the hardest. Mainly because you try to squeeze in a few short days together than suffer through weeks and months apart. And after this visit, it's going to be the longest one yet. Months! Between being busy and work we haven't had much time to talk the last few days apart from a few short emails or a 5 min. phone conversation. I hate days like this...I just feel discouraged and lonely. Like it's never going to end and why am I doing it. On days like this...I'd just like to have a nice surprise package or a phone call to cheer me up. Long distance relationships are so hard! How is everyone doing this week? Just venting...
SaraLovesHerAndy Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 aww you feeling any better yet hun? whens the next time ur guna meet up? i know wot u mean wen uve had a great couple of days together cramming everything that u wanna do 2gether in and then they leave u hav a terrible feeling inside dont ya i hope ya feelin better:) xxxxxxxx
strongertoday Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 I find the few weeks after a visit the hardest...the walking away...all the memories so fresh...that few weeks before we sort out the next meeting... My guy is 12,000 miles away so we find it hard to get to each other every 3 months. But nothing will stopo us even if I have ot suffer a 20 hour flight for just 7 days in his arms. All going well he will be here for good in November
mattea Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 Well the title sums it up. I always find the last week or week and a half before a visit the hardest. Mainly because you try to squeeze in a few short days together than suffer through weeks and months apart. And after this visit, it's going to be the longest one yet. Months! Between being busy and work we haven't had much time to talk the last few days apart from a few short emails or a 5 min. phone conversation. I hate days like this...I just feel discouraged and lonely. Like it's never going to end and why am I doing it. On days like this...I'd just like to have a nice surprise package or a phone call to cheer me up. Long distance relationships are so hard! How is everyone doing this week? Just venting... i can totally relate, maggs. my b/f and i are going to see each other in less than two weeks and i'm of course very excited. but i know those few days we have together will go by in the blink of an eye and then it will be back to our separate lives for long stretches. sigh. i get discouraged and lonely too - and i start thinking that even just a text message saying 'i'm thinking of you' or an email saying 'i love you' would make all the difference in the world. w/ my guy, sometimes we'll go days without *any* contact. we talked on the phone 4 days in a row (unusual) and he was really supportive with a personal problem i had. but now we've gone days. i know he is crazy busy so i try to understand but then i start to get resentful - how can someone be too busy to send a two minute message reminding you that they love you? i try to hold on to those good feelings from our conversations days ago - but it is hard. sorry, i'm not being much help as i think i am going through similar feelings of discouragement. sometimes it gets really tiring trying to fight them off. i have feelings too of "is this ever going to end?". so hard.
Author Maggs Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 aww you feeling any better yet hun? whens the next time ur guna meet up? i know wot u mean wen uve had a great couple of days together cramming everything that u wanna do 2gether in and then they leave u hav a terrible feeling inside dont ya i hope ya feelin better:) xxxxxxxx I am feeling better today, thanks. I always have a rough few days then get better again. But during that time, things just seem so miserable. He's coming over in 4 days for 10 days!
Author Maggs Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 I find the few weeks after a visit the hardest...the walking away...all the memories so fresh...that few weeks before we sort out the next meeting... My guy is 12,000 miles away so we find it hard to get to each other every 3 months. But nothing will stopo us even if I have ot suffer a 20 hour flight for just 7 days in his arms. All going well he will be here for good in November Congrats for November...you must be so excited!
Author Maggs Posted July 27, 2008 Author Posted July 27, 2008 i can totally relate, maggs. my b/f and i are going to see each other in less than two weeks and i'm of course very excited. but i know those few days we have together will go by in the blink of an eye and then it will be back to our separate lives for long stretches. sigh. i get discouraged and lonely too - and i start thinking that even just a text message saying 'i'm thinking of you' or an email saying 'i love you' would make all the difference in the world. w/ my guy, sometimes we'll go days without *any* contact. we talked on the phone 4 days in a row (unusual) and he was really supportive with a personal problem i had. but now we've gone days. i know he is crazy busy so i try to understand but then i start to get resentful - how can someone be too busy to send a two minute message reminding you that they love you? i try to hold on to those good feelings from our conversations days ago - but it is hard. sorry, i'm not being much help as i think i am going through similar feelings of discouragement. sometimes it gets really tiring trying to fight them off. i have feelings too of "is this ever going to end?". so hard. I feel the same way. We always get a chance to chat in some fashion everyday, even if it's just a short email. But on those days when I'm feeling down...something extra would be nice. I'm dreading the 4 months after this visit. Will be the longest one yet.
Gingerboom Posted July 27, 2008 Posted July 27, 2008 Hi Maggs and others, I share your sentiments entirely. I hope you make it through the lonely days. Take yourself out for a walk, go to see friends, have ice cream, whatever it takes! I know though, that sometimes all it would take to make you feel better is a real life, real time cuddle. With LDR's it sucks that you cant just have that like some other lucky couples, so you need the next best thing, which is texting/chatting to your SO, or perhaps (in my case), have a virtual cuddle on skype (not quite the same but it makes me smile) Sometimes guys just dont need as much reassurance as girls. At first, my bf and I would go days without speaking, but I would worry, due to his job, so now we speak practically every day and it helps, it makes my day in fact. He is due home in less than 2 weeks, and is back for 3 weeks after 3 months, so we hope to make the best of all our time together. It's hard that you get less time than that together and have such big distances to travel : ( Hang in there, as long as you think it's worth it. If you find, you are sad, more often than not, then address it together. I'd rather have 3 weeks out of every 15 with my guy than all the time in the world with any one else. Bluuuurgh. lol and yeah, it's not easy but we muddle through. We've both had a few stresses lately, like I need to find a new place to live and got a bit stuck and he's in a stressful job, but we're there for each other and we talk, and we get through. Ask me again tomorrow and it might be different mind you :-s haha All the best to you all, x
strongertoday Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Congrats for November...you must be so excited! I am still falling apart....he is falling apart too.... I threw my hear to the wind last night and said "just get out now and come straight away" He said "yes" Now I am waiting for the next time we talk to let him digest it all and decide if now or November. How I have to try and let the decision be his !! (and not fall apart anymore) lol
daithi Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Well the title sums it up. I always find the last week or week and a half before a visit the hardest. Mainly because you try to squeeze in a few short days together than suffer through weeks and months apart. And after this visit, it's going to be the longest one yet. Months! Between being busy and work we haven't had much time to talk the last few days apart from a few short emails or a 5 min. phone conversation. I hate days like this...I just feel discouraged and lonely. Like it's never going to end and why am I doing it. On days like this...I'd just like to have a nice surprise package or a phone call to cheer me up. Long distance relationships are so hard! How is everyone doing this week? Just venting... Dont do Long Distance, it does not work and always ends in disaster!. My ex asked me to move so much and I kept on refusing!, because of work. I am now without her and lost and depressed, so please make a move together if you are serious. She asked me to marry her after a year and a half and now im on my own.
JooSee Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I've been in a LDR for 4 years!!! Luckily he only lives about 5 hours away, so we do see each other frequently, but I totally understand how you feel. The month of July was wonderful as I practically saw him everyday. We had a mini vacation planned to coincide with my best Friend getting married so it was great. But he left yesterday and I feel so empty now. I asked him to move down here with me for good, but he said he couldnt because of his business. Arrgh...he owns his own business and HAS to be there. I just wish he could live here with me and have the LDR with his business. He said he'd think about it, but I doubt he'll make the decision to move here. Not only that, but he says he'd be bored living here with me while i'm off working FT, what would he be doing? LDR's are so hard, and I just wonder...is it ever going to change? I cannot move to be with him. he lives in a very small town with no opportunity for me..unless making $7/hour sounded good (with no benefits). I get scared because I dont want to do this forever. I get you, but atleast yours IS moving whether it be now or in November. You have a light at the end of your tunnel.
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