thekid55 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Well, it is summer time and I am enjoying myself. I'm 19 and enjoying my summer before college starts up again in about 6 weeks. During my spring semester, I dated this girl for a few months. We became extremely close. We spent a lot of time together and had sex often. Our relationship was pretty deep on the emotional level even after a few months of dating. We both got out of 1+ year relationships in the winter time. Summer comes and we are forced to be about 5 hours apart for the summer. The long distance between her and I was working out since we talked often and kept the relationship fresh. Back in her hometown, her ex had been bombarding her at parties, fights had happened between him and her since he wants to get back with her and she wants to be friends. This problems continued for a few weeks and got to the point where I told her that I just couldn't talk about them anymore and she needed to make some changes. Our relationship basically fell apart after this and we stopped talking on a regular basis. This was at the middle of June. I have decided to lay off of her and let her come and contact me. Our contact has been sporadic in the last month and a half, but she has called me 5-6 times to catch up and texted me a bunch of times. She has been trying to keep in contact...no relationship talk between her and I however. I heard through a mutual friend that she hung out with her crazy ex one weekend and he has had these away messages in the past that have said "Trying to get the only thing back that means something to me"...to last night when he had, "I love you"....hers have been generic away messages and nothing of that sort. While I'm not going to come out and ask her about it since it's none of my business, it does surprise me with what has been said about her and the ex. Obviously, I have feelings for her...school is 6 weeks away..I have been going out on casual dates with other girls and have even hooked up with a few so I'm not dwelling on this...what do you think I should do? And can you access the situation? On
Chinook Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Um, I wouldn't analyse it any further. I'd simply come right out and ask her what's going on with it. She may assume you guys (a) weren't in a relationship anyhow or (b) had broken up... so that pretty much means she can do what she wants. However, it doesn't mean that what HE is doing in public (i.e. online) is any reflection of what SHE is doing, thinking or feeling. How do you know she isn't constantly thinking about YOU...? You won't know unless you ask her what the deal is here and do you guys have a future. Put her on the spot with it. You've already asked her once to stop talking about their relationship - but talking about it and getting into it are two different things.
Author thekid55 Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 Right and I agree with what you are saying. What she does now is none of my business and vice versa. I honestly don't think I would approach her about any of this until she comes to me first since she is the one that couldn't continue the relationship. Whether or not that'll happen remains to be seen. It'll be a big tell when I get back to school and it's really not too far away... Anyone else?
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