norajane Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Some of my best relationships have been fwb. Not everyone always wants to be in a relationship with expectations and drama and the intensity of luv. Sometimes, you just want to have fun and sex, but you don't want to be sleeping around with random one night stands, and you also want to like the person enough to have a drink with or see a band with or whatever as well as the sex. I have one now, and it's just right for both of us. He's recently divorced and is in no mood for a relationship. I recently woke up from the sleeping beauty hibernation I went into to process my last break-up, and have no desire to open up to a guy in a love way. Neither of us wants to have sex with multiple strangers, but we do want to have sex and some fun because life is too short not to enjoy ourselves. For us, and for my past fwb's, it's a transitional relationship that will eventually run its course, but for now, it's low maintenance fun. Fwb's get tricky and messy when one person wants more from the outset, or develops a desire for more later. Going in, you have to buy into the idea and not have your heart pitter-patting for the person in a romantic way, otherwise you set yourself up for heartache.
sweetbutcheeky Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 This doesn't have any impact on my life or anything I suppose I'm just curious about it. I also saw something in another post that I found interesting. Why do people get involved in friends with benefits (FWB) situations? Do they just not want a relationship? Do they just not care for the person? I've known a lot of people who have done this and I have no clue what the attraction is. Any opinions on the subject? You can want a relationship and have a FWB. Also you like like a guy as a friend or as a person but not in he relationship way. It's hard being single, not finding a good match and missing sex and physical contact, so that's the appeal of a FWB.
mental_traveller Posted July 26, 2008 Posted July 26, 2008 This doesn't have any impact on my life or anything I suppose I'm just curious about it. I also saw something in another post that I found interesting. Why do people get involved in friends with benefits (FWB) situations? Do they just not want a relationship? Do they just not care for the person? I've known a lot of people who have done this and I have no clue what the attraction is. Any opinions on the subject? The attraction is that you don't have demands placed on you like you do in a relationship. She won't say do this, or you can't do that, or where were you last night, or does my bum look big in this. Plus you can see other people too.
Recommended Posts