alexa137 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 just want some opinions and how to deal with this situation- ive have been seeing this guy(also did 8 yrs ago for a few weeks) for about a month now-he said he didnt have girlfriend now ive seen him 3-4 times(sex) the last time(last week) i asked him if he was having sex with anyone else and he said no then he goes back home for the weekend for a dr appt and then i see pics of him hugged up and drinking beer with some girl on the beach! so i sent him a message saying-hmm nice pic!-girlfriend? no wonder you dont call me often and i figured so last night he sends me a message that i am so childish and he thinks that is what happened years ago-and if he had a girlfreind he would be coming to see me-believe it or not so my response was that i didnt think its childish,thats my opinion,read your message-its cool, we want different things SO- is it childish to think the way i do ? how woulr you act.respond?
Tyra Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I don't think that it was childish for you to send him that message. I would've sent him that same message too. But I wouldn't get highly upset because the two of you aren't in a relationship right? Ya'll just have sex correct?
silvergirl Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 You had the right to send the message, but until you two establish that you are in a "relationship" it really desn't matter. Now, if you don't feel comfortable having sex with him not knowing for sure if he is or is not having sex with other people, then I would not sleep with him anymore until you two have that important talk. I think you two need to talk, and figure out what exactly you both want from eachother.
Author alexa137 Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 i guess the obvious thing-i mean if i drop hints like dinner, movies etc..and i dont get no invite then its my fault its sucks there are no men that want a relationship--ive dealt with over 50 men past 20 yrs and never serious-no b/f thing, no marriage or nothing close i guess thats why i stay single and will forever how boring!
silvergirl Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I would say stop looking for awhile, then maybe he will find you. Also, are you dating guys in their twenties? If so, these guys really only have one thing on their mind at this time.
Author alexa137 Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 i dont look thats the thing! ive been single for 2 years-this dude just messaged me through myspace i am 38 so i dont date younger than 30 this guy is 33 age doesnt matter=its men-they are ignorant and only think of themselves!
KinAZ Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Well, depending on the relationship, I don't really see the point of sending such a message. If he's not your bf and you doubt his honesty, then stop seeing him. It could be an old pic, could be some random girl he just met, could be a good friend, or just some girl he's messing around with. Unless you two were planning to establish a solid relationship... I could see how that might put someone off if you two are just bed-buddies. I say that because it sounds like an emotional reaction. As far as age is concerned, I think after a certain point age is less important, but I don't think that I would say it doesn't matter at all. There are exceptions, but more often than not, certain accomplishments, understandings, and goals come with time. To me, a 23 year old man might as well be 17. While he could be fairly mature, chances are that he just hasn't been half the places I've been yet, and his perspective has not matured enough for me. The way I see it, if a man isn't after the same things I'm after, there's no point in wasting time with him, 30, 40, 50... it doesn't matter.
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