CuriousClaire Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 So i was seeing/dating this guy for the past month and a half, 2? During the beginning, he was really sweet and genuine. I wasn't that into him at first, but started becoming attracted and noticed that he became less attentive somewhere along the lines which lead to me doing the same and then it just felt like we were ignoring each other on purpose to the point where we didn't see each other for three weeks straight. When we finally do decide to meet up, he fllakes out last minute. I think he was trying to apologize, make other plans or something but i just exploded. He's been acting like such a f*king jerk for the last couple of weeks that hearing him b.sing just got to me. He even said he could have been an as*hole and not called. (The jerk also found out about my bday a couple of days after the event and never even wished me a happy belated or did anything to make up for it =/) During the argument, he hung up. I called back and he texted me, saying I was crazy and expensive and being troublesome than fun. He mentions having to pay for everything, when he knows i've been having trouble looking for work. I responded back with telling him ive always wondered if he was too young, im used to men that don't flinch when the check comes (im older) it's embarrassing and tacky. I said i didn't date boys and told him to move on. Then he mentions something stupid, and i respond back. And now were broken up. The thing is I miss him. There's traits of his that im not crazy about- not the money thing, but i dunno i still wonder if it's possible that he still likes me...even if he doesn't i'm wondering if i was too harsh and perhaps I should write something for closure. But then again when i think of what an as* he's been and i take into account the short period we've been together i wonder if it's even worth it....especially if he was never really liked me in the first place, which I don't know that he's doesnt...but if he wasn't im not sure he deserves an apology. ok, sorry for being long winded...what do you guys think. Should i extend an apology or is the guy not deserving.
Keridan Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Sounds like you have a high emotion situation there. You don't seem to have been together long enough to justify such a fight. I wasn't there for they dynamics of the relationship, tho. Personally, I think closure is a bad word. It just doesn't ever seem to end well. We all get our hopes up and think about how great the conversation is going to go. Invariably, it ends up being a painful re-opening of wounds. Especially if it's shortly after things were broken off. If you really feel you have to contact him, I suggest a note or at most a text message. A face-to-face will give him the chance to say something else stupid and ruin it. We guys are good at that. I think yer better off leaving it alone, but it's your call! Good luck!
Redbull Rider Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 not to belittle your emotions because i'm sure they're valid to you but you dated for possibly 2 months and three weeks of them you guys didnt speak to eachother and had what sounds like a huge argument. i dont see how you could miss him. i'd chalk it up as being an experience and forget an apology. if you decide to continue seeing him i'd make sure you dont put too much into it.
Author CuriousClaire Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 oh no, i don't want a face to face with him. i rather email or text. you guys are right we haven't been together that long. actually i've haven't had anything promising for a while. Then this guy comes along, he calls everyday, seems genuine about wanting to know me and possibly have something steady and I guess I just held on. I went into the whole thing thinking it's regular "dating"...calls every few days..ill slowly know him, but still keep my options open, go out, party. Next thing you know i have my contact case and tooth brush at his house and he's asking me to bring clothes over. At this point, i wasn't even sure he "knew" me yet, but it felt nice to be in that situation again. (I was in a 8 yr relationship prior to all this bull**** dating)....and it just felt nice to (potentially) be close to someone again. Now i'm even lucky to get past the 2nd date. I don't like dating...have no clue about playing games. The whole thing just tires me out and makes me sad.. anyways, yea, im surprised we went "there" too in terms of arguing
Jilly Bean Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I'd so move on from that. You dated for what, a week or two? If you are having those kinds of arguments and exchanges NOW, I'd be highly wary of what is coming down the pike. Maybe you're just loving the drama. Because beyond that, he treated you like a POS.
Jilly Bean Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 whats a pos? Piece of sh*t. I mean that respectfully, Claire. He ignored you for weeks, then started calling you all kinds of names. Who would want to be a part of that? Seems like a LOT of drama for someone you've seen a few times...
xpaperxcutx Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Wow he himself sounds like a piece of sh*t. No need for closure, the guy's an ass. Not worth dating one bit.
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