Birthday :(

[SadHeart79]

Hi guys,

 

Well it's my birthday today and I can't tell you how much I have been dreading this day since we broke up 4 months ago. For six years he always made the biggest deal of my birthday, went overboard spoiling me and making the day special.

 

Then today I woke up, alone, sad and depressed about the whole thing. The first thing I thought about when i woke up was him. My birthday is just not the same without him around.

 

On the way to work I got a text from him: Happy Birthday. Have a nice day. Is that it? After all the years we spent together, everything we went through together, and that's all he can say? An inpersonal text message that really doesn't mean anything. I guess a part of me was hoping that he would make more of an effort, at least a phone call to say happy birthday, but I guess that was expecting too much.

 

How have you guys dealed with getting through your birthdays without the ex? Is it just me, or does everyone after a recent break up feel empty and sad on a special day such as this?

[kizik]

I understand you are feeling sad, personally 4th of July sucked b/c of course I used to spend it with her... I am glad there are no holidays of note until Halloween, I should be feeling better by then.

 

Anyway I think you need to be glad he texted you. It shows he remembered your birthday and that he is thinking of you.

 

Best to you,

 

kizik

[saraispiel19]

Hey at least he texted you imagine if he didn't.. and what if he did make a big deal out of it wouldn't that eventually lead to false hope (oh he did this for me he must love me still).

 

It may be dark today but even the north pole comes back to it's days of light!

 

Hmm... another thought. What is it that you do? Maybe you should get yourself busy and occupied. The mind wanders and creates terrible thoughts when not occupied!

 

 

Get Busy and Goodluck to ya!

[the2gman]

I have to agree with you that texting is not very personal. But Lord knows I do get happy when I get one from my wife since we are apart right now. It's good that he at least remembered. It would have been a terrible day for you if he had not. I am sure there's a lot going on between the two of you that needs to be worked out.

 

Try to keep busy...it is hard though. When I find my mind getting sad, I really try to focus on something else. Keep your spirits up!

[justaman99]

I had to make a conscious decision NOT to wish my ex a happy birthday. It was extremely hard for me. All I wanted to do was show her I was thinking about her but I couldn't do it. She broke up with me and it wasn't my place anymore and I still needed to heal. It wasn't selfish, it's what I needed to do for me to move forward. Not sure on your history but I am sure he was thinking about you all day. I am certain he remembered how important that day was for him as well and it was probably hard for him as well.

 

-Just

[Keridan]

I dated this girl for 3 years a long time ago. I tried to make her birthdays special, too. Unfortunately, I eventually realized I wasn't ready to make the commitment she deserved and I left for school in another state, leaving her behind.

 

I did call her on her birthday. Was that ever a mistake. It basically ended with both of us feeling like crap. I tried to make it nice and thoughtful and she did, too. Unfortunately, there were just too many tied up emotions. It also turned out to be the last time I ever spoke to her.

 

Be glad he didn't open the wounds today. Maybe it can be easier and more comfortable when you do make contact again. At least you know that he was thinking of you and wished you well. That text to me reads "I care about you and wish you all the best, but I don't know how to handle all the emotions right now, so I'm going to send you something simple."

 

It's late now, but I hope your birthday turned out much better as it went on! Happy bday and all the best!

[sultry33]

hi mine was on the 20th july.. happy birthday op..

 

i didnt get a happy birthday text:bunny:

 

for me not getting one means he is still hurting.. thinking of me..

 

i had the best day with my children and no matter what i know they love me enough to be there always:)

 

i didnt cheat.. he didnt cheat.. so who knows..

 

personally it did suck waking up knowing i wouldnt see him but my kids smiles made up for it..

 

last time i saw him i gave him a late birthday pressie.. not the boxed kind;)

 

maybe mine is coming soon..