aubree1982 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 My boyfriend and I recently made things between us official last week. He said he still wants to spend time with his friends and isn't ready for us to me extremely serious yet, and I'm okay with that (we live an hour apart so it's kinda long distance anyway) I hadn't heard from him in a couple days so on Friday I sent him a text and told him to have a good weekend. He called me a few minutes later and told me his dad was in the hospital (its not really serious but still not good)...we talked for a few minutes then I called him on Saturday to see how things were, this time we talked about 20 minutes and he was telling me how stressed out he was etc. His dad is in the hospital where I live so he had been driving here everyday and said he may stop by. I texted him on Monday and said he was welcome to come by any time but he didn't respond. Now it's almost Wednesday and I haven't heard from him. I know it's dumb and he's going through a tough time so I should call but can't he call me? He even changed his facebook to "in a relationship" on Saturday. I don't get how you can say you are "in a relationship" but never contact the other person! I don't want to keep calling and annoy him if he's busy with his dad. I also don't want to make this an issue with him especially since he has good reason. I know for a fact that he's at home right now because he's online. Maybe he just needs some down time to himself right now but how hard is it to send a text to say hi. Should I just call him already? I'm worried that this is how our relationship is going to be...that I have to be the one who always contacts him!
saraispiel19 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Well you already contacted him enough- he's already stressed and you need to let the boy relax. Your going all crazy on the boy! Relax his facebook even says "in a relationship". So that gives you some insight, right? Well if anything send him an email asking how he's doing and his father. Just don't go all pyscho "why the hell haven't you called me" type of thing. Goodluck to ya and keep us posted. I'm sure everything is fine with your relationship- he's has a plate full at the moment.
Author aubree1982 Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks! I don't think I will make it an issue unless things are still like this in a few weeks. I know he needs some breathing room, he did mention that he had been on the phone a lot last week talking to people about his dad. I was thinking the same thing that maybe I should send an email tomorrow just to see how things are. Guess, I'm just bummed because I thought he would want to talk to me about how things were and I want to be the shoulder he can lean on when things are rough.
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