confused999 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 So he said, during our last texts over 1 week ago, that he is being mean to me because he wants me to leave him. I still asked him to come by, he said ok, then was too high, then was too tired... That was Saturday night. So I haven't contacted him since then. He txted me Thurs with some weird question about my work. I didn't answer. He texted me Sat night "are you ok?"... I didn't answer. Texted me Sunday with "at least you could do is answer that you got my texts" What do I do now?
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Keep doing the NC. You two have broken up and I assume you implimented NC mode. Can you block him?
Author confused999 Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 Have we really broken up? How immature is that! He went from normal man to being an ass in ten seconds flat. I can't block him, but I can ignore him, which makes me feel bad. What should I do?
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I don't know if you've broken up or not, but whatever games that is being played, you doing NC (ignoring him) and him being mean so you will break up with him - Something is amiss. Big time. You could CALL him and talk to him, sort this out. Be honest, speak from your heart. Do you want a relationship with this guy?
Author confused999 Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 Why call, he said last we spoke, that he was being mean to me in order to push me away so I'd leave him.
carhill Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 OP, that's immaturity on his part. He's still a boy. Continue NC and be thankful you found out his maturity level now
Author confused999 Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 He texted again, acting all concerned about my wellbeing. I'm feeling guilty, like I owe him a response. Do I?
carhill Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I'll tell you OP....when a woman cut me off (and many have over the last 30 years), it was like I didn't exist. It was no reflection on me, rather their lack of interest or being pissed off at me for whatever reason. I did exactly the same thing as this guy is doing, mainly because I was stupid and immature for not getting the message. Just continue NC and he'll get it, eventually
Author confused999 Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 What did you do? What were you thinking?
carhill Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I vacillated between feeling sorry for myself and thinking I was unworthy of love because they had rejected me and being angry that I had given too much of myself to someone and been summarily dismissed. I usually had my tantrums in person, rather than in letters or on the phone. This was long before commercial internet. Over time I learned to process rejection (or rejecting someone) better, I handled things better. Also, my tantrums resulted from poor communication; not properly communicating my wants/needs. I won't speak for the ladies, as I'm sure they had their own issues. Regardless, I can see a lot of myself (in the past) in how this guy is acting, hence my comments. In the past, if I were in the guy's shoes, I'd likely "give in" to contact by a woman, since I was more of an emotional whore back then, and then resent them for it. Sounds stupid, but hey I never said I was smart about romance
Author confused999 Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 carhill: So what are you advising me to do?
LakesideDream Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Ignore him Shame on you Carhill.... where's the drama in that?
Author confused999 Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 You guys are funny, getting a chuckle out of my romantic life! That's good, it makes it all the lighter for me... to realize the humour in it
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